Liars Anonymous Community Group
A support group to provide those with a compulsive addiction to lie a place to share hope, strength and courage with others like them; solve our common problem and help others with a compulsion to lie. We aren't alone!
My partner and I are expecting my first child, her second.
i recently lied to her about seeing someone and about where I was, while she was getting scans and otherwise.
My purpose of seeing this person was to talk about problems that I was having with my partner, moral support so to speak.
i told my partner I was at work when I wasn't, and I feel horrible about it, because I should've been with her.
i tend to exaggerate things, no matter how big or small, and I know it's wrong sometimes, and I will stop myself... But the other times, I say a little white lie and it's too late, and I've realised I made a mistake but I don't own up to it.
i don't want to hurt her anymore, I love her so much, and she means so much to me.
ive come into this space, hoping to become better then I am, and to start telling the truth no matter how bad it may be. Honesty, no matter how painful it may be, is always better then the lie that could destroy your whole world.
starting today, I will taking my first steps to becoming better then I am, no more lies.
Also, never see that person alone again. You cheated, maybe not physically, but you did. And trust me, that WILL lead to an adultery, especially since you already feel the need to hide it from your wife. If you truly love her, avoid alone time and deep conversations with the other woman. Find a same sex friend to lean on for relationship advice. Forum after forum I read about affairs that start like that, and one of my two did.
As for the lying, it will take time, commitment, and patience, but you can do it!
Again, I wish you all the best!
She holds me accountable for my mistakes, and we have both established that in a sense that yes, I cheated in a way, not physically but i suppose emotionally as I sought help from another woman that I shouldn't have.
This person and I no longer communicate. And never will again.
My partner and I have an open relationship, but I still broke the trust and communication we had with each other.
The lying is the only thing my partner is truly concerned about, as it is causing her to now doubt all of my actions, no matter what.
And I understand it's because I broke her trust, and I need to earn that back, and that will take time... And being here, and showing I'm committed to getting help and working at it, I will make myself better, and be better for her as well.
Thank you, likewise to you too!