Hello miss to, and to all. I'm in the Midwest, USA. Glad to see more folks joined. I happened on this site as I was looking for support from those experiencing similar chronic health issues..I have had some version of CFS and fibro for a number of years, and was going through lots of pain during a relapse a few months ago. I had tried some dating sites ..but more for friendships as I had not been long enough out of a 9 yr relationship..and after some rather weird experiences online, as lonely as I was for other lesbians, I was desparate for support on medical issues as this was an area the whole time that my ex was NOT understanding about. Was surprised to discover that DS has so many different groups.
Miss tk....everyone is different in terms of what they need most in a relationship. I finally decided I had had enough great sex in my life, but without the emotional support of common interests, that if I ever get involved with anyone again, it will be based on common values and interests. Sex is the easy thing to come by! But I sure hear ya about how frustrating that would be to be wanting them sexually too, and not have it mutual. It does seem like it should not be hard for your partner to be a bit more accommodating though. Two people always have different sexual needs and the key is compromise and wanting to do things sometimes just because the other wants it. It is an enjoyment of a different kind. I know lots of couples that just agree to be non monogamous...more often gay men, but it works for them and everyone I know has been together 30 yrs or more...except me. Sometimes even if one partner has no desire for another lover, they can be ok with the other partner having another outlet, as long as some groundrules are in place...like don't bring your lover home for sex etc.. Since this is more of a relationship issue, have you tried posting it on the lesbian relationship group? Hope you are able to work out what you really need most.