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Hey,
I've got a problem - I'm in a loving relationship but she is not interested in sexual intimacy at all.
She said she would be happy if we only had sex once a year.. (like wtf?! - I would probably die.)
I have tried everything to bring sexy time back into our lives but she is just not interested, she just doesn't even want to try. She hates talking about it so I feel like we will get nowhere fast. (It has been about 6mths since we were physically intimate.)
Also, she believes in monogamy but I disagree with that. I don't believe we are hard wired to be physically/emotionally intimate with one person forever. Anyway, I digress..
I have this intense crush on a bisexual chica and I think she is crushing on me too.
I dont know what to do. I really want to f***, and be f***ked by, this woman but I know that my relationship will be over if I do. I don't want to risk losing my girl but I hate feeling like I am not wanted or desired.
I feel like I am losing my shit!
Do I stay in a loving relationship with no sexual intimacy? Or do I leave and hope to find love and sexual intimacy elsewhere?
Please help me to remain as sane as humanely possible.
We have been together almost 4 years. The first 2 years were really good but these last 2 have been really hard.
I love her but i don't think Im in love with her anymore but I'm not too sure. Which complicates things even further.
I have definitely talked to her about how I'm feeling but I will give it another shot and hope for the best.
It doesn't sound like you're getting what you need out of this relationship any longer and I think it's hard to face a reality of it continuing that way for even another year or another 4 years
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We did actually talk tonight about how we feel and whether we want to try to work it out or break up.
I'm willing to work on it but she isnt too sure yet. It was an intense conversation that was well overdue so we will see what happens.
This looks simple to me. You haven't been together long - you feel you have, I know, but 4 years is still early days. I say that as a person who has been with their wife for 20 years. To me the simple answer is you think about whether or not you can be monogamous and have a limited sex life, because trust me that those sorts of personal issues are not negotiable for anyone, at the end of the day. Don't make the woman you love an option - you don't want to go that route. Think it through, and act accordingly. She and you both deserve that.
Sorry to just drop in, but if you don't mind, I'd love to connect with you to discuss intimacy in a long term, lovely relationship. I'm in a one (12yrs). We're both 30. I'm just not sexually satisfied, and it's getting to me.
I see you've been in a relationship for 20yrs. Congratulations! Perhaps you could give me some advice, or share some experiences? Only if this is okay with you.. Just send me a message. I'm really sorry if it's intrusive, I don't ever even talk about or to someone about these things, but I feel desperate and maybe I need to..
Thank you..