Learn to love yourself Community Group

This is a group for people who struggle to accept and love themselves for who they are. I hope that members will share there real feelings and the postive ways in which they are starting to love themselves more

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Love myself how?

supportplease
supportplease
I am new here and grew up in a family where I took care of my parents. We didn't have enough money and my mother would yell at my father constantly. I took it upin myself at a very young age to reassure my mother that things would be ok and tell my father that he was a good dad. I didn't want to add to their stress so I surpressed any feeling that I had and became the "perfect child". I went through my whole life taking care of my mother who died from cancer, and being there for my dad.

Now I need to learn how to take care of my own needs and be good to myself. I feel numb most of the time and have to learn how to feel.

Any suggestions on how I can get started?
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hiya,

Im new to this group & posted something on here a week ago & have no responses. Dare I say doesnt seem like a friendly helping group to me!
Maybe there is another site to help us. If I find one I will let you know.
Take Care!
Kindmirrow
Kindmirrow
This brings up a thought to me that I expressed to a past boyfriend:

"How do I know what a good relationship is? I know what a good relationship is but it is a lot of what my relationship with my family wasn't supportive, basically accepting and supportive and listening."

So you might say to yourself - I don't know or haven't experienced much self love but I think it is the opposite of what I have experienced as way to much weight to bear.

Here is what I would say spontaneously

Be diligent in only letting in those people who help you feel well, bring out the best in you and who are sweet.

Spend time in nature and around tender things - animals, young children, anything which reminds you of the soft side of life.

Keep talking.

Yay - You found the courage to admit that you don't know how to love yourself. That is a start.

I find having soft pink roses around helps me to feel better.

Seek out those things which soothe, try to create space for yourself to be heard to listen, to cry if need be.

I wish you luck and positive friends that understand how hard it is for you to make those steps you need to make.
deleted_user
deleted_user
It's not easy, I was raised similar, to take care of everything while my parents were away. Now I feel I have to be perfect and succeed at everything. I work too much, but am realizing now that I need fun and happiness too. One thing I have tried to do is, once a week, explore something new you have never been to. It could be going to a museum, visiting an old cathedral to grasp its beauty, take a walk through a park where you have never been before, take a new way home, and cherish what you find. Just simple things like that can help you start to care for yourself. Kind of gives you a second look on how to live life properly. If you want to chat, let me know. The only thing is that I may not be online too often because my laptop is getting old and doesn't work well.