I'm much older, but this is really painful for me too. I want to just love myself regardless. I'm not against losing weight. That's a good thing. But for now, we are who we are, so I believe that it's important to love yourself in the moment. We already look beautiful. We just want to look even more beautiful. I need to believe this. And I think I'd be o.k. if others stopped reminding me that I'm not beautiful. I'm sure deep inside you must feel the same way. You're still very young, and I believe that there is going to come a day when you will look even more beautiful. But remember: You are still beautiful now.

i feel like that too. Not only about body weight but i think my hair,my teeth, are v.ugly. I have fat legs and hips. Wish i could change.

hi hunny im twenty nine but i remember being your age i too hated myself i still do as ive put on alot of weight i always compare myself to other girls or women too. you are beautiful dont let anyone tell you your not ok?
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I used to hate myself like I even cut myself because I thought I was disgusting and hideous and it was just that I had been torn down by some mean people in my life. My legs were too fat, I had a blemish here or there, I had some cellulite, stretchmarks, and I became bulimic at 17 and almost died. Anyway, learn to love yourself please!!! Put some makeup on, buy a cute outfit, get your eyebrows waxed, just do something for yourself :) U r beautiful sweetie!!! (((((((HUGS)))))))

Just wanted to add some input.....from a male perspective. WHen I look at a female, I look for inner beauty!! For many reasons..outward beauty fades, and many women who "look beautiful" on the outside are VERY ugly on the inside. In the end, it is all how you present yourself. I like women with a sense of humor and a nice personality over a "hollywood model type" any day!

Us guys battle it too! We are forced to look like bodybuilders and have hair!!!

You don't have to hate yourself because you are overweight. Inmy view nobody has the right to judge others based on body mass if excessive. Some people in our shoes are that way due to a side effect of certain medications. That is nobody's fault. So people do not have the right to judge you or me based on our excessive body mass. That is making a diagnosis that the mass is there because of excessive eating of wrong foods without seeking out other factors for the excessive weight gain. Only doctors are allowed to make medical diagnosises where I live, in Quebec. So we are overweight. YUP. I include myself as I am.than there is just all the more to love. On a more intellectual note it is the inner beauty that matters most. I've been around sex bomb female physiques. But they have nothing of quality of inner beauty. They become turn offs real fast. I"m too old for you. But I'd rather be around an overweight woman who has a heart of gold than a woman with a sexy body and nothing else. In the end you need to search out UNconditional love which is all inclusive. Not conditional love that centers on the physique etcetra where criteria can be impossible to attain. Conditional love is a bad copy of UNconditional love. Hard to believe that at 14 and going to school. But there are a lot of sexy hunks of guys who don't have respect for women at all. Seek out genuine love, not conditional love. And love who you are as a person. You are more than just your anatomy, just as I am.

hey guys... i feel like all i am is wasted body parts...im nt pretty or smart i hv no talents

I think you should stop the hate thing. Its not helpful to you and its not healthy...also, don't compare yourself to those skinny girls. because you have your own identity and the physical part is just one of it. There is always a room for improvement. I am overweight also, but if i have make up on , a new pedicure and manicure to match i feel great. If you want to lose weight consult with your doctor first, let them help you.