My husband had an affair with a coworker over 20 years ago. He moved out for about five months, ended it and wanted to come home which he did. He asked for forgiveness which I gave him and we have had a good life. I thought it was an emotional affair  but had my suspicions. About three months ago I confronted him and he told me the truth – that it was sexual. Sometimes I feel like I’m crazy for still obsessing about this so many years later but learning that sex was involved has plunged me into a world of anger, depression, rage, and bitterness that I cannot seem to let go of. He has been very trustworthy and loving. We are in counseling and he is trying very hard to help me work through my feelings. I desperately want to let go of these negative feelings and move on with our lives. I just can’t seem to do it. I have days I can’t get out of bed or function. Any help is greatly appreciated.