Infertility, Secondary Support Group
"Secondary infertility" is difficulty conceiving after already having conceived and carried a normal pregnancy. Apart from various medical conditions (e.g. hormonal), this may come as a result of age and stress felt to provide a sibling for their first child.
I still remember the tugging at my heart all those years I wanted a child and didn't have one. I assumed that once I had a child, it would go away, and never return--but I'm feeling it again. It isn't exactly the same as before, because I experience so much joy because of my daughter, but it still hurts. In fact, I worry about not being able to give my daughter a sister or a brother, & what it would be like for her to grow up alone. Is this feeling here because she is getting bigger (and less of a baby)? I really believe I will have another child, it's just the wondering when!
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i agree.
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I felt the same aching as you did. I think it's b/c our little ones are getting bigger and becoming so independent :o( But I totally understand where you're coming from!
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Okay, I am crying because this is EXACTLY how I am feeling at this point in my life. I am thinking about giving up and thinking that this isn't for me. Sometimes I get down on myself because I feel as though it is easier to accept my position in life w/o a 2nd child. I don't know 6 months have pasted by and NOT A DAMN THING! SIGH! It is time for my period and I just want to get it and move onto the next cycle. There has to be a definite diagnosis as to why I am not able to get pregnant. I know I have a thyroid problem and endo, but those things are under control. I am so use to disappointment that I don't even cry anymore. I think that is sad. This web site helps a lot. Jaxie how long have you been trying?
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It took over five years to get pregnant with my daughter. After she was born, my doctor recommended birth control for a year, but we said no way. I didn't really start trying until she was about four months old. She turns three in October. I was 3 when my next sister was born, & we played together very well. I had decided not to worry until my daughter got close to that age, but now it's here & it feels like the clock is ticking. I know there is so much hope for me, & I know how blessed I truly am. I feel like I shouldn't have even posted this because there are so many others so much worse off than me.
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I feel the same paid my 1st child is 14 and i have been ttc with my husband for six years i wonder eveyday if i just want to give up
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