It'S HARD FOR SOME PPL TO REMEMBER YOUR DEAF EVEN IF THEY SEE YOU OFTEN.

AFTER MY EAR SURGERYS IN 2006-7 MY DAD TRIES TO REMEMBER TO LOOK AT ME WHEN HE TALKS TO ME, BUT HE DOES AT TIMES FORGET IT'S ACCEPTABLE, ESPECIALY SINCE I MYSELF DENIED MY HOH FOR OVER 30 YRS BEFORE THAT. I DO CONSTANTLY REMIND PPL THAT I'M DEAF SO THAT THEY REMAIN CONSCIOUS OF IT, IT HELPS OUR COMMUNICATION.

BUT IF YOU HAVE TO REMIND THIS PERSON EVERY WEEK OR EVERYDAY IS IT THAT THEY ARE IN DENIAL OF YOUR HOH? OR ARE THEY ACTUALY TRYING TO BE RUDE AND PISS U OFF?

IS IT POSSIBLE FOR YOU TO TOTALY IGNORE THIS PERSON WHEN THEY DON'T RESPECT YOUR HOH?
IF YOU CAN JUST IGNORE THEM WHEN THEY'RE NOT TALKING SO YOU CAN HEAR THEM
THEY JUST MIGHT LEARN SOMETHING.
PPL LEARN EASIER IF THEY ARE TAUGHT QUIETLY INSTEAD OF LOUDLY OR OUT OF ANGER...

YOU WELCOME TO 'BREATHE' HERE ANYTIME WOLF.
THAT'S WHAT FRIENDS ARE FOR..

YOU SURE ARE!!


I HAVE BEEN MARRIED 46 YRS WOLF AND HUBBY STILL DOES THIS TO ME.....I UNDERSTAND YA

SAME HERE! WHEN PEOPLE ARE NOT LOOKING DIRECTLY AT ME, I ONLY HEAR HIT AND MISS OF WHAT THEY SAY. IF THEIR BACK IS TO ME, I HEAR NOTHING OR MAYBE A BIT OF MUMBLING. MY DAUGHTER IS CONVINCED THAT I HEAR FINE AND THE PROBLEM IS THAT I'M JUST NOT PAYING ATTENTION. SHE GETS VERY FRUSTRATED WITH ME AND REFUSES TO REPEAT THINGS, AND I AM CONSTANTLY TELLING HER THAT IF SHE'S NOT LOOKING AT ME I DON'T UNDERSTAND WHAT SHE SAYS. SHE DOESN'T DO IT TO BE MEAN OR RUDE, SHE JUST DOESN'T UNDERSTAND WHY I CAN HEAR SOME THINGS AND NOT HEAR OTHERS. OR, IN MY CASE, I SEEM TO HEAR FINE SOMETIMES AND NOT OTHERS. SHE DOESN'T REALIZE THAT MY ABILITY TO HEAR HAS A LOT TO DO WITH WHERE I AM AND WHAT IS GOING ON AROUND ME. OUTSIDE OR IN LARGE BUILDINGS, YOU HAVE TO BE LOOKING DIRECTLY AT ME OR I HEAR NOTHING AT ALL. IN A NOISY ROOM, YOU HAVE TO LOOK DIRECTLY AT ME AND SPEAK UP OR I HEAR NOTHING AT ALL. BUT AT HOME WHEN ITS QUIET, I CAN HEAR A PIN DROP.

I WOULD LOVE TO IGNORE THE PERSON BUT IT'S SOMEONE I WORK WITH.

I GO THROUGH WITH THE SAME THING WITH SOME PEOPLE, THEY THINK I'M NOT LISTENING AND I'M TRYING TO. I HAVE TOLD ONE PERSON, DO NOT CALL ME ON YOUR FLIPPING BLUETOOTH AND THEY DO, SO I HAVE TWO PEOPLE SHOUTING AT ME AND THE MIC DOESN'T CATCH THE OTHER PERSON.

THATS THE SAME WITH ME. IT IS CAUSED BY ATMOSPHERIC CHANGES.
THE ROOM SIZE ALSO SOMEETIMES WILL SOUND HOLLOW OR ECHO
I HEAR THE SOUND OF THERE VOICE (SOMETIMES) TO KNOW THEY ARE TALKING BUT FOR ME TO UNDERSTAND THEY LOOK AY ME OR I AM GETTING TO POINT I JUST WALK AWAY FROM HIM.

ITS TOO BAD THERE ISN'T A WAY TO MAKE THEM SPEND A FEW DAYS HEARING THE WAY WE DO SO THEY WILL UNDERSTAND.

WE SHOULD ALL LOOK FOR DOCUMENTED INFO ON DIFFERENT TYPES & EFFECTS OF HEARING & SHARING IT HERE SO WE CAN COPY & PASTE & PRINT IT, OR SEND IT EMAIL TO PPL ONLINE WHO DON'T UNDERSTAND OR BELIEVE OUR HEARING TROUBLES..

I'VE HAD THE SAME TROUBLES WITH MY PAIN ISSUES FROM PPL
I LOOK OK I GOTTA BE HEALTHY, I'M NOT IN A WHEELCHAIR OR USING A CANE ,
PPL DON'T 'KNOW' WHAT OTHERS INABILITYS ARE UNTIL THEY TRULY EXPERIENCE THEM.

I WATCHED AN OLD SITCOM ONCE WHERE AN OLD LADY TAUGHT HER GRANDSON WHAT SHE WAS GOING THROUGH IN A RATHER UNIQUE WAY. HE WAS TRYING TO PUT HER IN A NURSING HOME BECAUSE HE THOUGHT SHE WAS LOSING HER MENTAL CAPACITY. SO SHE GOT A PAIR OF READING GLASSES AND MADE HIM PUT THEM ON. THEN SHE STUFFED HIS EARS WITH EAR PLUGS, AND PUT SEVERAL MARBLES IN HIS BOOTS AND MADE HIM PUT THEM ON. THEN WHILE HE WAS WALKING AROUND LIKE THAT SHE STARTED TALKING TO HIM AND PICKING ON HIM BECAUSE HE WAS BANGING INTO THINGS AND COULDN'T HEAR HER, AND HE WAS WALKING TOO SLOW. FINALLY SHE SAID, "WHAT'S WRONG WITH YOU? ARE YOU CRAZY? ARE YOU STUPID? WELL OF COURSE THIS MADE HIM ANGRY BUT HE GOT THE POINT. SHE WASN'T LOSING HER MIND, SHE COULDN'T SEE AS WELL AS SHE USED TO, SHE COULDN'T HEAR AS WELL AS SHE USED TO, AND SHE WAS IN PAIN. THOSE THINGS MAKE ALL OF US A LITTLE SLOWER AND UNABLE TO DO THINGS AS WELL AS WE USED TO, EVEN THOUGH THEY DON'T SHOW ON THE OUTSIDE.

THAT WLD BE AN AWESOME SHOW DEB, CAN YA REMEMBER THE NAME???
DAN LETS MAKE A NEW THREAD JUST FOR THAT INFO, MIGHT EVEN BE ABLE TO HELP WOLF, WHAT DO YA THINK????
MY AUDIOLOGIST TOLD HUBBY IF HE WAS TO FIX HIM TO WHERE HE WAS DEAF LIKE ME AND ONLY PUT THE SOUNDS I CAN HEAR HE WLD GO NUTS BECAUSE MY BRAIN CHANGES THE SOUNDS THAT I DO HEAR INTO WHATEVER I NEED.

DID THE IDIOLIGIST SAY THIS LAST PART ? ....
BECAUSE MY BRAIN CHANGES THE SOUNDS THAT I DO HEAR INTO WHATEVER I NEED.

WE'D HAVE TO NO ALOT MORE ABOUT WOLF'S CASE TO DO THAT STAR.

I ASKED THE MAN THERE THAT WAS DOING THE TEST ONME IF HE CLD MAKE WHAT I HEAR AND THE WAY I HEAR THINGS GO INTO HUBBYS EARS SO HE CLD UNDERSTAND HOW I ACTUALLY HEAR THEM AND UNDERSTAND THEM. SAID MY BRAIN CHANGED THINGS INTO OTHER THINGS AND THATS THE WAAY I HEAR

YEP WOLF HOW CAN WE HELP

HMMM INTERESTING. WHEN I'M IN AN AREA WHERE I CAN'T HEAR WELL ENOUGH TO UNDERSTAND WHAT PPL ARE SAYING, MY BRAIN TRIES TO FILL IN THE BLANKS. IT MAKES A MESS OF THINGS THOUGH. MY LAST DOC APPOINTMENT FOR EXAMPLE, THE NURSE SAID FOR ME TO GET UP ON THE EXAMINING TABLE SO SHE COULD CHECK MY BLOOD PRESSURE. WHAT I HEARD WAS "GET UP SO I GET YOU BUTT PRESS, OR"

LOL C DEB, I HEAR ALOT OF FUNNY THINGS , MANY I SHOULDN'T REPEAT HERE.

SAME HERE DAN. USUALLY I GET A GOOD LAUGH OUT OF THE WAY I HEAR THINGS, SOME I CAN'T SHARE EVEN WITH THE PERSON WHO I WAS LISTENING TO.