Well we are still seeing each other we met on Match.com on December 1, 2011 and our first date was December 27, 2011. My grandkids absolutely love him and say they think he would make a "Great" Grandfather. My girls don't say much and my son still refuses to meet him. It just made a year since their dad died and it has been a rocky year a lot of changes in all of our lives. But I can truly say I am happy. My life will never be the same or what I thought it would be. But after John died I didn't think I could ever love someone again or them love me unconditionally as this is something you acquire after being together for years (32 to be exact). But Pat loves me faults and all, although we both know I don't have any (just kidding). I do have my doubts like everybody else, what about this what about that. Not sure if it is an age thing now that we are older and wiser we just want to make sure that everything is just right. But I have to keep reminding myself there are no guarantees in life and no relationships are perfect even though we would like to think they are. Someone once said God may bring someone into your life and it is at the opportunity that you have to decide what to do. You can either grab on to it or let it go it is entirely your choice. Sometimes we may feel we need to hold out for the what if's. What if he isn't the right person, or what if a better person is right around the corner, but what if there is no one else around the corner, what if this is the perfect person and we are so concerned about what everyone thinks that we let them get away. We as adults have to make decisions daily about what is best for us. It is just so much more complicated when you throw in adult kids and grandkids. Everyone has an opinion but there is only one that truly matters and that is yours. As you are the one that has to live with your decision. We have talked marriage and he says he is just wanting to make sure I am ok and that this is what I truly want, because he only wants the best for me. He sounds so much like my John. He even worries about me when I am on the road, in the bad weather everything. I never thought I would meet someone so much like John yet so different. But they are alike in the ways that matter to the heart he is truly amazing. Sorry for rambling but I am Happy and just wanted everyone to know that you can be too just take a chance. Hugs, Andree'