HOPEFUL HEARTS...LIVING AGAIN AFTER THE LOSS Community Group
We are a group of people who have grieved the loss of a spouse, partner, or lover and are searching for a life without our mate. Some looking for their own identity as an individual or finding a life for themself. Some looking for companionship or a serious relationship with someone new. And some just feeling lost and unsure. We offer encouragement, support and virtual...
Long story short:
Moved to Las Vegas to live with my new man. The night I arrived with the Uhaul, 2 dogs, 1 car and 1 motorcycle, he told me that he did not want a relationship. Now I am his renter as I had no place to go.
I try really hard to stay positive. I got a job after only a month and feel blessed to have it. It allows me to work as many hours as I want. It's a 24/7 operation so when I can't sleep I go in. I also work weekends mostly because I get up so early and nothing is open to do any errands so I go to work.
It's a pretty tight knit group of people I work with. They have worked together for a while and they are like a little family. I have tried to be friendly but they just to short sighted to see how they shun people. Mind you none of them work any overtime. On Monday they asked if I had worked on the Weekend to which I replied yes 6 hours on Saturday and 6 hours on Sunday. One of the ladies then stated "you need to get a life, just because you don't have a man, you need to be happy with yourself". Mind you I did not say that I had nothing else to do.
I do cry everyday, usually on my drive home. I am not wanting anyone to feel sorry for me. It is just the stage I am in right now.
Sorry to vent. Hugs, Sandi
Moved to Las Vegas to live with my new man. The night I arrived with the Uhaul, 2 dogs, 1 car and 1 motorcycle, he told me that he did not want a relationship. Now I am his renter as I had no place to go.
I try really hard to stay positive. I got a job after only a month and feel blessed to have it. It allows me to work as many hours as I want. It's a 24/7 operation so when I can't sleep I go in. I also work weekends mostly because I get up so early and nothing is open to do any errands so I go to work.
It's a pretty tight knit group of people I work with. They have worked together for a while and they are like a little family. I have tried to be friendly but they just to short sighted to see how they shun people. Mind you none of them work any overtime. On Monday they asked if I had worked on the Weekend to which I replied yes 6 hours on Saturday and 6 hours on Sunday. One of the ladies then stated "you need to get a life, just because you don't have a man, you need to be happy with yourself". Mind you I did not say that I had nothing else to do.
I do cry everyday, usually on my drive home. I am not wanting anyone to feel sorry for me. It is just the stage I am in right now.
Sorry to vent. Hugs, Sandi
Antonella
Have you considered finding a meet up group? I am sure there are plenty of them in Las Vegas. And without knowing your spiritual beliefs, there may be a church for you to join. A gym, yoga, or some exercise program will help a lot, too. Or take a class at the community college just for fun.
It is a very lonely journey you are on (and I agree, the man sounds like a totally creep...) and it will take a lot of motivation to step out alone. But after a while, it may get easier. My heart goes out to you....
Yet, i can see a strong woman in your writing, and a tenacious one. I can see you are making a life for yourself............
Now it is time to set a plan of getting out of this toxic situation.
Start thinking about your next vision of your life, and set a plan on how to get there. You have your will, chanell it from feeling sorry for your circumstances, to making real steps of getting where you are free from being dependent on a person who does not deserve you, even as his tenant.
I hope you can find strength in you and in your heart to break through and start all over.
I really pray for your determination to have a brighter tomorrow.
Hug
The post broke my heart. Hugs and love to you my dear.
Cindy
Vent here as often as you need to...it's why we are here for each other...