Absolutely kkg17! Look for people who have similar interests, hobbies, etc. Perhaps join a singles group in your area or a dating site (but be careful with this last one). Live life.....it is what your husband would have wanted for you. Also, if you like cruises, I think there are special cruises for singles....not sure though. Rhodes scholar programs might be fun to investigate.....I've been thinking about these too.

I made the decision that if I wanted to enjoy life I was going to have to figure out how to do it myself so I didn't have to depend on someone else. It has been fun actually. I'm a cross stitcher and tomorrow I'm leaving for 4 days on a retreat with all my new/old friends. We all live in different states, but we have our needlework in common. I bought a brand new van mainly for work and these trips. I've even been invited on a cross stitching cruise. Yes believe it or not they have those. LOL. Some might think it's boring, but I'm having a good time. I'm spending my late husband's birthday next month on another trip out of state.

My thinking is that if I had a relationship, I would have to compromise and that person might not like needlework. I've adjusted to living alone better than I thought I ever would and I'm quite content to be social but on my terms and no one else's. Maybe I'm just a selfish person now, but I have really surprised myself in how much I have become accustomed to doing what I want when I want.

My motto is that I am alone, but I am not lonely.

Nessie from KY (who took a break from packing for my trip to read the board)

I decided I have adjusted to living alone, I like it too. Well, my oldest son lives with me. He does his thing, I do mine! If either of us want to do something, we do it. Then if one or the other wants to go out to eat. We usually go out to eat together, each pay for their own. And if something has to be done with the house, we both get in there and fix it. I really don't miss, being a couple with anyone anymore. Maybe I am selfish too? Sandee

I agree with "being wired for a partner". Although I miss my husband and still am tearful more days than not, I have found I really enjoy dating (and yes, I have met them on all online!) A few have been jerks, but I just try to find something positive in each of them...they, too, are doing the best they can. I am currently in a casual relationship that has been really fulfilling.

Of course, you need to be realistic. Safety first. Always. I think it is easier if you live in a city....lots more options. And I clearly would recommend Ourtime.com (Seniorpeoplemeet.com same site, different name) because the men are older, and are not looking for women in their 30's and 40's!

Like others say, it is still important to find things to do without a man, to feel whole and relatively happy. Do you travel? Small group tours are a fun and exciting way to meet others, and to see more of this incredible world.

I met my husband at 16 years old and in high school. We married and celebrated the growing up in ourselves and our children. Did all the normal things of that time. What I hadn't done was lived on my own. I hadn't even thought about myself except in the area's of mother and wife. Sure, I did my own thing at times. I thought I was pretty independent and strong willed if pushed. Some say Aries are like that.

When my husband was diagnosed with lung cancer and died 10 weeks later, everything fell apart, or so it felt. I was forced to find myself, my likes and dislikes, my wants and needs, I needed time to figure out what I wanted, because I was not just looking for anybody. I was determined to be true to me before I became joined to another. Then I found a man who loved me and I love him. Did I say, "we meet on senior people meet "?
Lol. Sharon

The new book "Going Solo" has an amazing revelation about the reality and the choices we make to being singtons.......... Check it out. I really like that it sheds the light on the today's trends and choices of being "unattached"
Check it out

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