Aww Mel, I am so sorry. His idea of pace seems arbitrary to me. Why does it have to be six months? To me the person is more important than the timeline. But if he doesn't realize that, then it is not right. Please don't give up on the idea of being loved and having a partner just yet. Regroup, be kind to yourself, and realize better now, than later. It sounds like he is working on divorce issues and his own personal demons. We all have luggage at this point in our lives, his luggage just didn't match yours. Truly a bummer.
Hugs,
Val
PS: You are SO worth the effort and the time. His loss.

I believe you made the right choice... he has a deadline when to live with someone?? Sounds like he just wants someone to play house with no commitment. You will be fine.. proud of you Bonnie

So sorry Mel, I so liked reading your romance story. But like others posted, life and a relationship doesn't have a timeline. Plus you are your daughter's rollmodel and you need to set good examples for her and relationships. Just smile and be glad it didn't go further, moving someone in with you is a big step and I am old fashioned....you date, engaged, married then move in together..chin up lady, we're all rootin' for ya and a happy ending..

Just when we feel secure that we are loved forever, we lose our husbands! And we have to start all over again. Only this time we're MUCH older
Try to keep your chin up Mel. When the guy I was having a relationship dumped me after 10 months I was devastated! Really! Even had to go on antidepressants for a bit. it was like a double whammy.
Two months after I was dumped I met the man I am now married to (it will be 5 years this May). If would have still been with the first guy, I wouldn't have given Bill a second look.
You don't give up and I admire that Things will work out for you. My thoughts are with you.
Dianne

Thank yall!!!

Im so sorry Mel, this is definately his loss. Now that I have been dating I realize that grief was only part of the story, trying to begin a life again is also so very hard.
Russ

Mel, at least he is being honest with you about what he wants. Living together is not a situation that works for everyone and you are right to be concerned about your children. It's hard to say without knowing him, but do you think it possible he was searching for an excuse to break up? Life can be disappointing at times. Maybe we see what we want to see sometimes in people but the truth is it takes time to get to know someone.

I don't believe for a minute you will be spending the rest of your life alone. Just slow down a bit. He may have trust issues or whatever from his divorice if it is recent. You are still healing from losing your husband. It could be bad timing but in any case, it's better to move on.

Mel, I am incredibly proud of you. You stuck to your values. And you put your daughter first. Had you compromised on this, who knows how many other compromises you would have had to make in the future. As others said, his timeline seems very arbitrary, and I think speaks VOLUMES about who he is as a person, if he pushed you this way, so soon too!
Odds are, you will find one amazing man who wil give you the time you need for the relationship to grow, and HE will still be alone.
Remember you were loved, and are worthy of more love. Keep the faith girl.

Hi Mel,
I felt the same way after the guy I was dating ended the relationship after 6 months. I was so hurt and devastated but, now it's getting better. The statistics show that there are a lot more single people these days. I think it's a lot better to be on your own than to be in a bad relationship. I hate to say it but, most divorced people have emotional issues and baggage and it's difficult to be in relationships with them. I question why he is so adamant on living together after only six months.
Take care of yourself, you'll survive.

Antonella

I am sorry too, Mel. As others have said, it is really his loss. Stick to your values...there are some things we should never compromise on. Please don't give up...always keep hoping until your dream is realised...
You sound like one incredibly great lady and some very lucky man is one day going to be so blessed to call you his wife.
I just re- entered the dating world 2 months ago after 27 years and it is so much of a different world out there. Never know what is expected of me....too over- the- top or too nonchalant....hard to see where the line is. Just relaying my experience so that you know that I understand somewhat of what you are going through...more than once I have thought like you have...that there is no one for me and love is not out there for me anymore, but please do not lose faith....trust in GOD that HE will guide you through this and help you sort out the chaff and get to the wheat so to speak.
I know it hurts so bad when it doesn't work out, but my approach has always been either all in or all out...swing for the fences or stay on the benches....yes,the hurts run deeper, but the happiness is so much more rewarding.....my apologies if I got a bit off- topic....my prayers are with you....there is a great guy out there for you Mel....May GOD Bless You and Yours...Alex

break ups...make ups...roller coaster rides of emotions are much more painful than I can remember but heck It was also when I was young that I ever had to deal with them. Now the one I experienced was very emotional