You know I have wondered about this myself but really never sat down to think about it before up until you wrote about it...Coming out of the wood work...
Do you think men gravitate toward you because of the positive energy that surrounds you? Maybe its that glow you get? Maybe its the inspiration you feel when your with someone you really like?
Just sayin...

~Christine

All these Chick/Guy magnets on here - hum....ha ha ha - spill your secrets, will ya???!!!. I do agree with Christine. When you feel good about yourself, you project a positive ''glow'' ,or an attitude. It's good for your health, you attitude, and you life. For me, I am sure that I am a one man at a time kind of person, which I guess is unrealistic these days. I guess it comes from being married for 39 years!!! That's one reason why I don't like online dating - too much of a ''contest''. I went as far as ''looking'' at the Seniorpeoplemeet site - just reading the stuff sent me running!!! Vicki

It seems, "unrealistic" is the understatement of the year ...with these movies out like "FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS"...I mean really...IF my daughter watches stuff like that I am sure to be with her and spill my two cents in on that game and how inappropriate it is... Thank goodness she has grasped some good values outside of what she sees on television & those at school! It scares me the things she tells me.

This is kinda off topic but:

I know I'm ignorant to all this online crap & although I met someone online but believe it or not prior to (not that its wrong) I had never really chatted with anyone (especially a man) I didn't know unless it was brief to get information. I haven't the slightest clue about dating online. I think if I was to read some of the profiles I may run as well, or spend much of my time emailing them a clue about their ignorance (not that I'm Ms. Grammar) which wouldn't get me far in the dating scene.

I have asked questions just out of curiosity & learned to some its a big game and its not necessarily the men all the time but the women are really good at it. Its not just a cat and mouse for sex but a meal ticket... These multiple profile holders are on different sites preying on those who are interested in something genuine...If I was a man would fear these women would have me robbed if I went out with them...

I personally believe you most cases you get what you pay for. If I were to try to date online I may consider using a service that I had to pay some kind of fee that would to at least allow me to weed out "some" of the "real winners" out there...Not that they are any better than the rest but it does show some effort & the possibly the man has a j.o.b. or some sort of income.

It does seem to be a feast or famine scenario. Right now I'm in the famine stage and I may stay here for a little while longer. I agree with you Christine, some of the women on the dating sites scare the beejeebers out of me....and I ain't got a lot of beejeebers to spare! I don't think I could handle dating more than one person at a time....that would be too much stress.

Vicki is right....you magnets out there....share some secrets!! :)

I did hear a good line the other day tho: "I'm waiting on the one who is waiting for me".

OK, carry on...I'm done.

deauxgirl and JudiB....both from the same vicinity....where everything is hot, loud and spicy! Just kidding.....but it does seem to be the way it works. OK, mademoiselles....laissez le bon temps rouler!

I don't think it has anything to do with the area that Paula and I live in. I've had guys tell me it's more about what's in my profile and how honest and sincere it came across to them. I've heard so many stories about how some of the women on there have used the guys for free meals and asked for money from them (can you imagine that?). I could never do anything like that. My goal is to meet someone who is as sincere as I am. There are those though that write and have nothing more important to say than "hi!" or "what's up?" I'll say the same thing back and if it never turns into any more of a conversation than that then I just move on. There are some real characters on the dating sites and after awhile you learn to recognize them a mile away. And there are some really nice people to be met too. It's a process trying to meet someone that you share enough with to even agree to a meeting. I guess it all depends on whether you're willing to go through the motions of wading through intro after intro till someone of real interest comes along.

I just got an email from someone on SeniorPeopleMeet after me telling him I wouldn't give him my personal email address because I would prefer to get to know him in the "safety zone" of the dating site. He wrote back and told me he was honorable and respectful and he was sorry I didn't trust him. Well, if he's so honorable and respectful then why does it have to be his way or no way? This is what I mean by just doing what you have to till the right person comes along that raises enough interest to pursue a conversation to see if it goes any further. The good news is there is no lack of interest, the bad news is waiting for the better ones to show up, sometimes it takes awhile.

I am finding out though that there is no such thing as a perfect man just as there is no perfect me. What I have found is that you can find perfect in our imperfections with the right person. Who could ask for more than that?

As far as the "feast and famine" thing, it happens all the time here. Sometimes there's nothing going on and other times it almost seems overwhelming. Just all depends.....on nothing in particular really.

Judi

Do you all think if you Skyped the person first before going out on that dreaded first. Got to know or see his/her mannerisms facial expressions a little after writing and texting for awhile you may feel a bit more comfortable?

I know the dreaded video cam may seem a little intimidating at first; however, how much worse can it be than seeing them across a crowded bar/restaurant and it is much easier to hit end than walk out, right? Heck, if you really want you can keep your flannel jammy bottoms on...Tee-hee and he'll never know!

Hmmm....great idea Christine! Put technology to work for us.