I think it's what is comfortable for you. You could always put them on a chain and wear as a necklace, if you think it would make him more at ease. When the time is right, you will know it. Did he have his ring on?

I think it is what your comfortable with.You asked him if it bothered him,and he said it didn't.He is a widower he should understand.No I don't think your being unfair.

I didn't wear my ring for many years before Cindy died ,being a mechanic the ring would of got damaged or worse .As for someone else wearing one that doesn't bother me ,I have been living in Australia with Wendy for two and a half months now and she still has hers on and I an fine with that .....Scott

When you are ready, you will be ready. I removed mine after the one year mark. It just felt right at the time but lately I feel like putting them back on.... whatever works for you is the right way to go.

Blessings - it is a long and sometimes bumpy road we travel.

Linda

Yes confusing issue. My friend understands why my ring is on but at the same time makes it seem she is dating a married man to others. Ring has been on all most 40 years and part of my hand. Can a guy move the ring to the little finger or ? Silly question I suppose, I am in a serious relationship and the ring is not a problem..just thinking. Going to share a couple months in FL. Maybe a decision after that would be best. After the past 14 months , is a problem that I never thought would occur . So a happy one is one way to look at it. Bob

I think of it kinda like I'm Joe's until someone ASKS me to remove the ring because he wants to put a different one on it. Maybe I'm dreaming. He's cool. No, deauxgirl, he did not have his on. He said he removed it some time ago, thinking that he should.

Another take on this is that men and women eat out together all the time and being with a woman in public doesn't mean we are serious. My hubby used to take his women friends out for lunch every now and then and it was perfectly fine with me. I don't think there is the stigma of infidelity when we see a single man with a woman who is wearing wedding rings. I would wonder more if the rings had been removed and there was a definite ring line around her finger where the ring had just recently been removed open to the sunlight. Anyway, thanks for your comments. I will leave it on and tell him that it will be there until and unless someone I may fall in love with asks me to remove it so he can put his ring on my finger. Thanks, again, all!

Well, the new guy in my life actually asked me to remove my ring. He said that he would like to put his there soon. We will see. But, I did remove it. A year has passed and when he asked me, I realized I was ready to take it off. Everyone has to do what they are comfortable with, and I understood how he felt being with me with my rings on. ..... Dawn

I can understand how the other person might feel that you aren't ready to date if you still wear your rings. But you have to do what you are comfortable with. I took my engagement ring off at about a year and just wore the wedding band. Then a few months later moved them both to my right hand where they will stay. I remember my friend commenting about the ring change. Wasn't much longer and we started dating. I think that was a big signal to him that I was getting ready to take the next step.

Like the old song says-go where you want to go and do what you want to do. Personally I took my ring off at 1 year. No one forced me to but I felt like I was living a lie. I wasn't married anymore. If I were to date a man who still wore his ring I would wonder---Is he really ready to date?

Thanks, everyone. I took my rings off yesterday just to see how it would feel. I was sad, felt not right, but after 24 hours, I can bear up. I know I have to do this. I am ready to move on and I need to let the world know that, if I expect to meet someone who might share the rest of my life with me. Thanks, again!!

I didn't take mine off completely until the morning of my wedding to Joe, but I had switched them to my right hand a few weeks after Snake died, even before I met Joe. My hand felt bare without my rings, so I simply wore another favorite ring on my wedding finger...but I think it's like everything else connected to this journey...there is no "right" or "wrong" way to do things...it's whatever works best for each of us personally....

I moved my rings to my right hand on the one year anniversary of my husband's death. It felt strange and, after almost a month, I am still getting used to it. I do not know if I will ever remove them completely, only time will tell. However, I am not dating and haven't even figured out how to go down that road yet.

It was first Valentine's without him, while shopping I was offered to buy this or that for "your husband" , " your husband might like that"...
Also some casual acquaintances seeing my wedding ring made a small talk with some comments about marriage or asking something about my husband.... and every time it was like a sting to my heart.
Without blaming them, I come to realize, the ring was a part of my life that was not here anymore....
What is more, when I became bombarded with my daily responsibilities, financial issues, house or car repairs, making major decision on my own, I also became extremely aware I am not married anymore. It is what it is, and I accepted it.
I placed my wedding ring into a memory box.
Fortunately I have another beautiful ring from my husband, which he gave me before he passed, so I am wearing it on my middle finger, and It is soothing to know that ring is from him.

Very confusing and individual issue.. Have joined several Meetup groups and after a while people always ask how or where my wife is. That makes me say I am a widower and that kills the moment for all. So may have to take off just to stop the questions but not sure yet. Don't want to talk about my loss more then I have to.

Peace Bob