HOPEFUL HEARTS...LIVING AGAIN AFTER THE LOSS Community Group
We are a group of people who have grieved the loss of a spouse, partner, or lover and are searching for a life without our mate. Some looking for their own identity as an individual or finding a life for themself. Some looking for companionship or a serious relationship with someone new. And some just feeling lost and unsure. We offer encouragement, support and virtual...
Every once in a while, life grabs a hold of me and shakes me. Recently, that happened. Part of our grieving process (Sharon has brought this up a billion times) is discovering what makes "me" happy.
Recently, I was hurt so badly that I began to make some changes in my life. Exercise, meditation and eating better. I discovered a path to peace through meditation. Along this path, I've been discovering me and others in my life. So, while j title this self, I have actually become more selfless by focusing on my self. Self awareness.
I believe I tried meditation a few years ago and felt unsuccessful. Well, I've discovered that it's not about success or failure, just being. Lots of chatter in my head while I practice meditation and while I'm mediating, I notice thoughts more easily. I have noticed much of the anxiety I have had comes from worrying about what other people will think of me. Working on that. I'm the only one who has to live my life. God knows my path, I don't even know it.
My pain turned around and it has become one of my greatest assets. The pain of death and then break up with my fiancé wasn't caused by what happened with them, it was caused by what happened inside me. My thoughts and interpretations.
I hope this finds some heart to help on this path of life with all its changes and twists. It really is a beautiful thing!
Recently, I was hurt so badly that I began to make some changes in my life. Exercise, meditation and eating better. I discovered a path to peace through meditation. Along this path, I've been discovering me and others in my life. So, while j title this self, I have actually become more selfless by focusing on my self. Self awareness.
I believe I tried meditation a few years ago and felt unsuccessful. Well, I've discovered that it's not about success or failure, just being. Lots of chatter in my head while I practice meditation and while I'm mediating, I notice thoughts more easily. I have noticed much of the anxiety I have had comes from worrying about what other people will think of me. Working on that. I'm the only one who has to live my life. God knows my path, I don't even know it.
My pain turned around and it has become one of my greatest assets. The pain of death and then break up with my fiancé wasn't caused by what happened with them, it was caused by what happened inside me. My thoughts and interpretations.
I hope this finds some heart to help on this path of life with all its changes and twists. It really is a beautiful thing!
Russ
Everywhere I turn lately I am hearing about meditation. I sure would like to try it. Anyone have any suggestions on where to start?
Cheryl
My beginning was 5 minutes, just saying my name over and over again in my head. I quickly learned that even though I was supposed to have only one thought, a bunch of other thoughts were happening. Not very helpful thoughts either. I progressed to 20 minutes, focusing on my breathing and body sensations or scripture. I can now stop thoughts when I meditate and return to my focus. It's weird how it works. I'm still learning. I can't meditate with other people around or TV noise, but a dog bark or cat meow or train whistle is fine. I think it has to do with me worrying about what others are thinking about me.