Oh, wow, that goes hand in hand with my post. I like my space, too. I have my standards. I like quiet, mostly. Living with someone whose life style is very different is not good. I just got out of my marriage of one year. He is a good man and I am a good woman. We were just way too different. I agree with you that letting him know that you are not thinking of anything more with him than what you have now. I made the mistake of going with his feelings instead of mine. I liked him a lot but was not "in love". We are both going our ways now and have agreed to be friends. I pray you can get the best out of your relationship with him without marrying or living together. My experience tells me never again. I like your statement that even going through a crisis alone is fine with you. I feel the same way. Good luck!!

That may just be the reason why there are no people to date on these dating site. Everyone has decided they would rather just be alone. I'm about to that point myself. I really don't feel like cooking, cleaning & sharing my things with someone else. It's just too much work in our older years. I just want a friend to do things with but that hasn't happen either.

Being alone is good and healthy. There's no law that you need or should be part of a couple, so don't let others make you feel any different.
That being said, being part of a couple is good and also healthy if it's right for you. There are advantages with both decisions and you can choose what is right for you. Those who have been on this site know when Elizabeth began the site it's purpose was for those looking to begin dating and was named, "Hopeful-hearts-love-after-loss" When I took over the site as new founder my first action was changing the name to "Hopeful-hearts-live-after-loss. "

I believe it is becoming what I envisioned it to be. Sharon