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The highly sensitive person (or HSP) is someone who cares deeply about everything ... feels emotions with great intensity ... is highly conscientious ... has a rich and complex inner life ... is very intuitive ... is often creative in a variety of ways... is easily overwhelmed and/or overstimulated. A HSP needs lots of quiet time,space, and freedom. If this sounds...

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tired of being called crazy

alijoezack
alijoezack
im so tired of being so emotional. just split with my partner a few weeks ago and im still so fragile. our last fight was big she kept calling me crazy and it really really hurt. she says im too emotional. uninvited me from a trip for next year cause says im too emotional and she doesnt want me freaking out in another country. really. there are days when i feel really good and days when i feel like hell. everyone says need find myself. hello im 41 been single pretty much twelve years on and off mostly off. how does one find themselves and how do i stop being so damn sensitive so that when someone doesnt answer text or call i dont loose it. im really kind and caring and very rarely put my heart out there cause when i do it hurts like hell. im rambling just little overwhelmed...i miss her so much but it was a hot mess last 3 months we were together cause knew we didnt want same things. but that is over just want to feel better and not be so insecure cause im tired.
Group FounderJanvier
Janvier
I hear you. As you already know, relationships are complicated & sometimes painful. We have no control over other people & their thoughts & actions. All you can do is be true to yourself ... honor yourself ... take good care of yourself. I understand that when we are hurt it can be overwhelming & exhausting. I wish I could be more helpful but hopefully some other members can offer their advice. I hope your situation starts to improve soon.
deleted_user
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Ekhart Tolle - "The Power of Now". Miguel Ruiz - "The Four Agreements", "The Voice of Knowlege" and "The Mastery of Love"

I have these audio books on my PC and play them on repeat as I sleep.

Start researching personality disorders and look for clues from your actions to help you define what it is that is happening with you. Not everything is a disorder, but there ARE obvious issues that you are going through and the sooner you face that and take responsibility for your own growth as a secure human being, the sooner you will find the happiness that you deserve.

Remember this FACT: Happiness can ONLY be found INSIDE of YOU. There is NOTHING that exists outside of your inner self, not a person or item or idea, that can give you happiness, comfort and/or security.
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alijoezack, you are not crazy, and you are not rambling. and I know where you have been, i also have had quite a lot of meltdowns with my husband then boyfriend. i still have meltdowns and unfortunately it can just be a person who makes a rude comment to me and sets me off for the whole day. but this happens less the more i take care of myself. i have to give myself plenty of downtime doing things that i love like reading or crafts or just having fun with my kids. a low carb diet, plenty of sunshine, exercise, good nutrition and lots of rest can make a big difference. plus i sometimes also have to make myself push certain thoughts away and force myself not to think certain things. or i purposely spend time doing nice things for myself and being nice to me.

I can personally recommend Anthony de Mello "The way to love". And big hug to you. You are special and wonderful the way you are. You don't need to change you for anybody else. No matter what they say. But it also helps sometimes to allow yourself to be sad or reserved. If I'm unhappy about certain things, after all of these years, I have learned that sometimes it is actually better to not discuss it with my husband, because he also sensitive and then he takes everything personally and then we have a big fight. I just now tell him it's nothing and that is now his cue to just give me some time and space.

Big hug!