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The highly sensitive person (or HSP) is someone who cares deeply about everything ... feels emotions with great intensity ... is highly conscientious ... has a rich and complex inner life ... is very intuitive ... is often creative in a variety of ways... is easily overwhelmed and/or overstimulated. A HSP needs lots of quiet time,space, and freedom. If this sounds...
Through a recent conversation with a friend, I was reminded of a discussion I had sometime ago, with a friend who is trying to develope his skills as a marketable romance/erotic writer. And we were discussing perfume and cologne.
And I asked him, "Haven't you ever made that experience of meeting some woman that had personality traits that you found positively annoying, and she was wearing a particular scent, and the next time you came across someone else wearing the very same scent, you automatically attributed the very same characteristics to that other person?"
"No", was his answer.
"Well how about positive characteristics? Haven't you ever associated a particular scent with an attraction to a woman, her attractive characteristics? Haven't you ever had that experience of a fleeting moment of joy to know 'she' was there before you even saw her, and you felt the anticipation take ahold of you? Didn't your heart skip a beat when you caught the scent?"
"Uh... no... sounds kinda weird, actually."
Is it just me who combines subtle scents with personalities, or am I a product of over-dramatised perfume commercials?
And I asked him, "Haven't you ever made that experience of meeting some woman that had personality traits that you found positively annoying, and she was wearing a particular scent, and the next time you came across someone else wearing the very same scent, you automatically attributed the very same characteristics to that other person?"
"No", was his answer.
"Well how about positive characteristics? Haven't you ever associated a particular scent with an attraction to a woman, her attractive characteristics? Haven't you ever had that experience of a fleeting moment of joy to know 'she' was there before you even saw her, and you felt the anticipation take ahold of you? Didn't your heart skip a beat when you caught the scent?"
"Uh... no... sounds kinda weird, actually."
Is it just me who combines subtle scents with personalities, or am I a product of over-dramatised perfume commercials?
Since, i am not educated in that manner, I don't have the exact scientific definition for these above mentioned conditioned responses.
I can do a negative response or anticipation.
I loved Eternity cologne. That scent became an important part of my recovery.
My son gave me my very first bottle of this cologne.
As time passed, my son's mother in law arrived in our lives.
She is an obnoxious, controlling witch of a woman who I deeply dislike.
I stopped using that cologne, because she frequently announces it is her signature fragrance.
Everyone associates it with her.
So, now when I smell Eternity, I think...where the hell is that woman??...and up go the force shields.
For some time now, I have been working on taking this fragrance back for me and me alone.
I am working on disconnection of this association and conjuring up something more positive.
But, I do wholehearted understand.
Whenever I used to smell Chantilly cologne, I would soften with loving anticipation. My grandmother used that scent all the time. For a certain time frame in my life, there was a chance that she was right around the corner. Yes, I was filled with joyfulness.
I don't think this weird at all.
How about names? Have you ever had a really terrible experience with someone you dislike very much ?
Or, perhaps you were around a person that you disliked because of certain exhibited behaviors.
Afterwards, whenever you hear the name, you immediately conjure up the animosity for those in the past that had the same name.
It happens to me.
To GoodGod, your revelations fascinate me, and I have experience this with the name of "Thomas". Sadly the bearers of this Christian name can expect passive hostility at beast from me. I do wish it was otherwise, but former bearers of this name have bitterly disappointed me to the point that I have to fight against the subtile animosity behind this name.
I always associate Lancome with Isabella Rossalini. (spelling?)