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The highly sensitive person (or HSP) is someone who cares deeply about everything ... feels emotions with great intensity ... is highly conscientious ... has a rich and complex inner life ... is very intuitive ... is often creative in a variety of ways... is easily overwhelmed and/or overstimulated. A HSP needs lots of quiet time,space, and freedom. If this sounds...
Since my divorce, my ex saying to me that even though I lost 70 lbs (which I lost most of them during our marriage), I'd have to pay someone to stay with me (this was 1 yr after the div.). I've had a boyfriend those years, still here.
Along with my ex, and his infuence over the kids, I lost my BFF and other friends who swore they wouldn't leave.
I got into a Thanksgiving funk. My boyfriend hunts that week, so I spent a few yrs by myself. Spent the last 2 with 1 of my sister's and her family, my usual day was spent with my brother's family, but haven't been invited since before the divorce.
So, this year, was invited by a FB friend. Never met her, we just chatted. Went to her house, I never once felt uncomfortable. Spent 8 hrs (could have been more), but had to get home to dogs. It was way out of my comfort zone to go to someone's house I've never met, but it was like we had been friends forever.
It pays. Granted, I'm now in my safe alone zone, but I'm happy I met someone new, and her family, and look forward to doing something with her again. Just still like my alone time.
Did anyone else overcome a comfort zone?
Along with my ex, and his infuence over the kids, I lost my BFF and other friends who swore they wouldn't leave.
I got into a Thanksgiving funk. My boyfriend hunts that week, so I spent a few yrs by myself. Spent the last 2 with 1 of my sister's and her family, my usual day was spent with my brother's family, but haven't been invited since before the divorce.
So, this year, was invited by a FB friend. Never met her, we just chatted. Went to her house, I never once felt uncomfortable. Spent 8 hrs (could have been more), but had to get home to dogs. It was way out of my comfort zone to go to someone's house I've never met, but it was like we had been friends forever.
It pays. Granted, I'm now in my safe alone zone, but I'm happy I met someone new, and her family, and look forward to doing something with her again. Just still like my alone time.
Did anyone else overcome a comfort zone?
You've restored confidence in me for social media. The friend whose house you went to for a good, ole visit sounds special to me
i'm envious , . :)
good luck with your family things,
--Calebb
Because I have witnessed my patterns enough to see that often what once was merely discomfort often grows into fear left unaddressed. A way of understanding this an experienced I had when I was a kid … 6 yo to be exact. I had broken a leg and put to the hospital for what ever months .. both legs in traction at same time so the body would heal correctly and to keep me hog tied from moving too much. The result was FEAR of movement later. So it came time to get legs out of traction then into body cast… FINALLY!!! sawed out of the cast (scary) and they wanted to put me in a hot tub to help revitalize etc. I refused. Next thing I knew my parents were telling me to ride my bike … that was the extent physical therapy . I was so totally afraid and had every reason in the world to feel freaked out after all this months … it didn't matter I had to work it any way to regain movement. being comfortable costs people vital life and drains power (energy).