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My husband and I work as porters cleaning parking garages. We both work for the same employer at the same location of parking garages. We both work the morning shift.
He is assigned to one garage. I am assigned to 2 garages plus a parking lot that is located above one of the garages. The garages I am assigned to are underground parking.
The location we work at has been short-staffed for a while. Currently there are no new employees working at our location.
My husband was asked by one of the managers who works at our location to learn how to use the intercom system in one of the offices to answer calls from customers needing help at the pay machine(s). This was a while ago. He agreed to do this. There were 2 employees working in that office until one was let go. One worked the first shift. The other worked the second shift. This was a while ago. He was asked to work the intercom in the mornings Monday through Friday from 7 a.m. to 9 a.m. until a replacement was found. At 9 a.m. the first shift employee arrives at work. He is also expected to complete all of his duties regarding cleaning the garage.
The garage he cleans needs 2 people in the morning since there are over 1000 parking spaces in that garages, but no-one has been hired to help clean. There is a checklist of duties that must be completed. Some are daily, some are every other day and some are once a week. My employer as well as the manager over that garage expect everything to be done in addition to his working the intercom for 2 hours Monday through Friday without any over-time.
When that does not happen, the manager over the garage has a meeting with the immediate supervisor my husband, I and 2 other co-workers report to. That manager has been upset to the point that he "rides our supervisors bottom, and that is putting is nicely".
This morning I forgot my name-tag, and so I let our immediate supervisor know. He said it was ok with him. Every first shift employee was in the office where the intercom and time-clock are at this time. However, another employee who reports to a different supervisor *there are 2 of them*, left the office with that particular supervisor. Then both of them returned, and the employee told me "Jim told me that you need to go home since you forgot your name-badge". My husband tried to get him to stop saying that, but he kept on repeating that. I got tired of his saying that, and I let him know this. He likes to push other people's buttons as well as butt in where he does not belong. I was pissed at that point.
Then our immediate supervisor had a meeting in the break-room with his staff. The purpose of the meeting was for him to dump what the manager(s) tell him when they are pissed at him as well as his staff onto us. Since those manager(s) rode his behind, he felt that he had to ride our behinds. The impression I got from him was that we were his trashcan for him to dump his trash in. He told me that he was at one of my garages yesterday, but he did not see me. His response was that I was not at my assigned post. I told him that I was at the other garage when he arrived, but he let me know that he had his doubts regarding what I told him even though I told him what I was doing, which is one of the duties on the checklist. I really did not want to be in the meeting, but if I had left, I would have been written up.
Why would I have been written up? Because during another meeting a while ago, my husband and one of his co-workers got into an argument during that meeting. I could not stand to be around the negativity, and so I left the meeting. Later on that morning, our immediate supervisor told me the next time I did that, he would write me up.
The difficult part for me is when I know I need to leave to calm down I cannot due to my getting written up. The impression I get is that we are expected to stay in the meeting no matter what happens.
It was a difficult day at work for me today. I had to emotionally distance myself from everyone so I could somewhat manage.
I could use some good advice regarding how to deal with this mess at work.
He is assigned to one garage. I am assigned to 2 garages plus a parking lot that is located above one of the garages. The garages I am assigned to are underground parking.
The location we work at has been short-staffed for a while. Currently there are no new employees working at our location.
My husband was asked by one of the managers who works at our location to learn how to use the intercom system in one of the offices to answer calls from customers needing help at the pay machine(s). This was a while ago. He agreed to do this. There were 2 employees working in that office until one was let go. One worked the first shift. The other worked the second shift. This was a while ago. He was asked to work the intercom in the mornings Monday through Friday from 7 a.m. to 9 a.m. until a replacement was found. At 9 a.m. the first shift employee arrives at work. He is also expected to complete all of his duties regarding cleaning the garage.
The garage he cleans needs 2 people in the morning since there are over 1000 parking spaces in that garages, but no-one has been hired to help clean. There is a checklist of duties that must be completed. Some are daily, some are every other day and some are once a week. My employer as well as the manager over that garage expect everything to be done in addition to his working the intercom for 2 hours Monday through Friday without any over-time.
When that does not happen, the manager over the garage has a meeting with the immediate supervisor my husband, I and 2 other co-workers report to. That manager has been upset to the point that he "rides our supervisors bottom, and that is putting is nicely".
This morning I forgot my name-tag, and so I let our immediate supervisor know. He said it was ok with him. Every first shift employee was in the office where the intercom and time-clock are at this time. However, another employee who reports to a different supervisor *there are 2 of them*, left the office with that particular supervisor. Then both of them returned, and the employee told me "Jim told me that you need to go home since you forgot your name-badge". My husband tried to get him to stop saying that, but he kept on repeating that. I got tired of his saying that, and I let him know this. He likes to push other people's buttons as well as butt in where he does not belong. I was pissed at that point.
Then our immediate supervisor had a meeting in the break-room with his staff. The purpose of the meeting was for him to dump what the manager(s) tell him when they are pissed at him as well as his staff onto us. Since those manager(s) rode his behind, he felt that he had to ride our behinds. The impression I got from him was that we were his trashcan for him to dump his trash in. He told me that he was at one of my garages yesterday, but he did not see me. His response was that I was not at my assigned post. I told him that I was at the other garage when he arrived, but he let me know that he had his doubts regarding what I told him even though I told him what I was doing, which is one of the duties on the checklist. I really did not want to be in the meeting, but if I had left, I would have been written up.
Why would I have been written up? Because during another meeting a while ago, my husband and one of his co-workers got into an argument during that meeting. I could not stand to be around the negativity, and so I left the meeting. Later on that morning, our immediate supervisor told me the next time I did that, he would write me up.
The difficult part for me is when I know I need to leave to calm down I cannot due to my getting written up. The impression I get is that we are expected to stay in the meeting no matter what happens.
It was a difficult day at work for me today. I had to emotionally distance myself from everyone so I could somewhat manage.
I could use some good advice regarding how to deal with this mess at work.
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