I have a hard time feeling understood. It seems that people who are not HSP really don't understand me and don't have a lot of interest in knowing how I feel. They sort of dismiss me as being "too sensitive."

Sometimes. My husband has the ability to see four to five times the amount of colours I can. He can match paint colours perfectly. He has extrodinary sense for 3-dimensional space, and can see if something will fit before trying it. These are all abilities I do not have. He can also play music by ear.

He used to have to shout while talking, because his mother and several of his relatives are practically deaf, but after living with me, he has gradually become more sensitive to noise.

The negative side of it, is that he also super sensitive to criticism and over-reacts to stress and confrontations, which has taught me a lot about learning to argue without raising my voice and using strategy and manipulative questioning when "fighting" with him.

My boyfriend is HSP. It is a very hard. I thought it would be great to have someone who could relate to you. But we seem to feed off of each others negatives. Times are tuff and that creates a lot of neg.
I can`t speak for everyone. It could just be me and my man that are this way.

My boyfriend is not a HSP and I think that is one of the things that makes our relationship so great. It is true what they say about opposites, I think. He loves to be social and meet new people, etc. and can talk your ear off. So it really helps when we go to parties or family gatherings to have him with me. It's like he makes up for what I lack. I learn a lot from him, too.

I love that about my fiance too. He is not HSP. I tell people that he is the social butterfly in our house, and he keeps me moving and out with others. I sometimes take things too seriously. I always think, when I'm hurt about something someone said or did to me, that that person had to know what they were doing would hurt me. He often tells me to just blow it off and let it go. Sometimes I really need that.

I don't think my husband is HSP. He can be very sensitive about certain things, but for most things he tends to just shrug it off. It has been a problem in our relationship since he'd often say hurtful things and not feel like he did anything wrong. Things have improved in this area since we went to counseling together...