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indifference and sadness

dreamyHope
dreamyHope
well, I have this friend of mine. have you ever chatted with somebody and you are so happy to talk to him but he seems indifferent or rather wants to get rid of you. I feel sad and at the same time angry.
You feel like you being unwanted. You are being enthusiastic about whatever you want to say, but then a mere message at the other end tells you, will talk to you later as if getting rid of you. Sometimes, I understand that really you are busy and cannot reply, but when you know that you being shoved, it feels disheartening and that too, by the person you like/love.
deleted_user
deleted_user
it seems to me that when i experience this type of behavior from someone i care about instead of politely telling me that they will talk with me later that the more enthusiastic i am the ruder they appear to be . it's almst as if they resent my positive attitude .
Group FounderJanvier
Janvier
dreamyHope, I think it's always frustrating when we feel we are being dismissed especially by somebody we care about. It's always more pleasant to have someone share our enthusiasm.
deleted_user
deleted_user
DreamyHope I have felt the same, ignored or pushed away by those I love, either they don't want to hear it or they cannot understand my fast speech-and I stutter.
I can understand if they are busy or out of time, but there is a kind way to say that. I feel for you. I think you are nice, I guess keep that in mind, that you know that, you are trying your est, are good person, and deserve to be heard. When we are enthusiastic, and want to share, it can be frustrating to not have someone wanting or willing to.
Not able to is another story, busy lives can interfere, but still-there IS a nice way to say that. HUGS for you xx
deleted_user
deleted_user
I am so very sorry DreamyHope. It can be the most disheartening feeling there is. I wonder what would happen if these people were told how we feel and asked why they do that? Like:

I feel very hurt right now and have the feeling you do not like talking to me.

or It seems to me like you always have to leave when we talk, I hope I don't make you uncomfortable.

They might just deny all and push it aside or in the worst scenario tell us to stop being over sensitive I guess but at least it's out there and they know deep down we know what they are doing.
It could be that it changes things but then would you truly be with someone like that or talk to them?
RosePark
RosePark
Hugs to you, dreamyhope!