Well I think you sound like a person with a lot of heart and anyone to have you as a friend would be quite lucky. Don't be disappointed with your life and how you are because I think people that give more then they ever get back are special souls:) You have probably helped more people then you will ever know:)

Hello & welcome!

I understand how you feel. It is difficult being highly emotional or highly sensitive.

I hope you find it helpful joining our group. There are a lot of caring people here...with a lot of support.

It is very difficult to be a highly sensitive person at times. I feel the same way you do, but not all the time. Through therapy I have learned to lower my expectations of people to match reality so that I don't find myself disappointed as much as I used to. I also am very careful who I share friendships with, but I do have close friends, just not too many. It's hard not to take things personally, but I find that if I put myself in the other person's shoes, especially at work, I realize that people are just doing their jobs and it has nothing to do with me. It's really all a matter of perspective and that is something we have control over.

Hi, I can totally relate to how you feel. I try to look for the good in people when I meet them and sometimes All I see is phoniness. Sometimes it is a matter of expectations. If you expect too much from people and expect them to react how you would in situations, you set yourself up to get let down. I work with 4-5 year olds and I feel the same way when one of my students is upset. I've learned to accept this and try to focus more on the child than how I feel and this helps. I think this is why I prefer animals and nature to people!

I so absolutely agree with your post. I am also such a hypersensitive person and my emotions completely rule me. It seems like other people around me in my everyday life really have no emotion. Sure they like fun and happy things but, people in general do not feel things internally on the level we do and they cannot understand it. My husband tells me all the time that I just am wanting "attention" but, he does not get it. I especially have a hard time at work and in social circles. I feel like it something that I have to hide because people see it as a weakness if you are an emotional person. My husband says think with your head and don't let your emotions rule you but, I just can't do that. I am so glad I found this group.

"It's really all a matter of perspective and that is something we have control over"

wachit...that is so good to remember!

I so can relate to you!! I am extremely sensitive and emotional... and I often find my feelings getting hurt by people around me.

It is difficult to control emotions... and I am open to suggestions on how to deal with this.

I absolutly agree with you. I used to be so loving and such a loving soul that even though it was the case, I always saw past it, and saw deep inner reasons for the way people acted. I was much happier then.
But now, I just see people as selfish and shallow. They will be the first to tell you you are over sensitive or over emotional, butjust try saying even 1/2 of the inconsiderate thing that comes out of there mouth to them. Or try not being 1/2 as considerate with their feelings, and watch them scream , cry and pout! We are put on this earth and told by God to love others, but it gets pretty hard to do.
I love kids. Young kids, who are still real and true. They could say just about anything to me and it wouldn 't hurt because it comes from a place of innocence. So if a 3rd old would say i was fat. I wouldn't care. But if and adult said it, or an adult over heard it and made a big deal and said oohhh, she didn't mean it. I would be insulted. Because the adult is obviously lying. I hate lies. And I have found that I am like the only person i know who doen't lie on a regular basis. Sry, rambling again.

Just reading through these messages is very helpful. It's so good to know there are other people who understand.

proudmary, I agree that sometimes it is too one sided. It's really frustrating to be accused of being "too sensitive" by someone who is not sensitive enough. I often think, "well how would you feel if I spoke to you like that?!" They wouldn't like it either.

This is not meant as criticism but as a simple suggestion.

Are you aware of how much refined sugar you consume during the day, including in ready-made products?

I ask you this, because refined sugar directly effects how emotional I can become in certain situations. It also makes me more sensitive to other peoples' feelings. When I stop eating for a 48 hour period, I find my emotions will cool down to the point where rational thinking is much easier.

I identify with everyone! If I am truthful, I really don't like most people very much. I wish there were a place or situation that I could meet sensitive people like myself. I feel that there would be a real connection and understanding that I don't have with most.