I am a non HSP deeply in love and in a relationship with a textbook HSP. One big issue we have is my sarcastic humor. It is NOT mean spirited and is often me making fun of myself. I am never, ever mean to her. For example the other day I saw that my sneakers were similar to the color of my car and commented "Did you know I pick out my sneakers so they match my car". To me that's funny. It's a silly comment. It made her angry because she says I make "sarcastic" comments all the time. Which is just my sense of humor. My style. People literally love me for my sense of humor. To her it's annoying and false. To her sarcasm is "insincere" because I know it's not true. Get it? She says nobody in her life uses sarcasm!? When everyone, everyone in my life does? So this is becoming a big issue. I show the woman, and have shown her a deep and unconditional love. 

My question for the group? Is sarcasm that irritating to HSP's? Is it that hard to understand? I am trying to figure out how to modify my behaviour but it's super hard.