During the pandemic I was attending zoom meetings with friends, but I was feeling really uncomfortalble during the meetings and when I attended, my stomach would hurt or I would get a headache, so I stopped attending.  I thought maybe it was "just me", but I was feeling like there was a really high amount of hostility among the people and in the group. I couldn't explain why-it was just something that I felt and I couldn't explain the reason. The general amount of complaining I'm sure was a part of it yet it seemed to be a way more intense vibe than normal. 

I went to a movie for the first time since the pandemic with one of these people.  We really haven't seen a lot of each other over the pandemic, but I was a little startled over the changed in her appearance, just how it had changed for the worse and a tremendous amount of weight gain, even for a person who was already significantly overweight.  It was a little startling to notice the change.  We got to talking and the truth came out, she said that she had a raging temper, would scream and shout about various things.  She often seems extremely angry at her mother and for some reason I find this frightening.  I find it to be really intimidating. I don't remember her being this way when we first became friends a decade ago.

I don't know why, but her choice of movie bothered me.  Part of me didn't care what movie we saw because I hadn't been to the movies or hardly anywhere in this time.  She chose Gladiator, and I thought it was a newer movie.  If  I knew we were going to see the original from 20 years ago, the one with Russell Crowe and Joaquin Phoenix, I would not have gone. The level of violence has always been too much for me with that movie, I barely got through it before and quit watching it a couple of times.  I just wonder why she had to choose it.  I was so uncomfortable the whole movie I have always found the movie to be really shocking and horrifying. 

Anyone else here overly sensitive to peoples' change of mood and attitude?  I know I am, and I am far less able to handle it than before.