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My son was at the State track meet, he took 3rd in pole vault. A wonderful accomplishment.
My ex did e-mail me pictures from the meet, but also added that the pictures were taken by my best friends ex-husband.
I didn't realize they were such good friends. I know I got upset a year ago, I had a major accident, was laid up for 5 months, I was on so many drugs, my liver levels went off the roof. My friend and her ex met my ex for dinner to discuss my health, and my ex told them if I fell off the earth, he wouldn't care. Let's forget that my ex, over the 23 years we were married, was injured for over 10 of them. Broken neck, heal, back injuries, rolled ankles, hand surgery,etc.
Now, I'm trying to figure out if I should talk to my friend.
I do have a wonderful man, who supports me in every way. He knows my ex, we went to college with my BF, he's met her ex, I'm just not sure where to proceed.
My ex did e-mail me pictures from the meet, but also added that the pictures were taken by my best friends ex-husband.
I didn't realize they were such good friends. I know I got upset a year ago, I had a major accident, was laid up for 5 months, I was on so many drugs, my liver levels went off the roof. My friend and her ex met my ex for dinner to discuss my health, and my ex told them if I fell off the earth, he wouldn't care. Let's forget that my ex, over the 23 years we were married, was injured for over 10 of them. Broken neck, heal, back injuries, rolled ankles, hand surgery,etc.
Now, I'm trying to figure out if I should talk to my friend.
I do have a wonderful man, who supports me in every way. He knows my ex, we went to college with my BF, he's met her ex, I'm just not sure where to proceed.
To be honest, I don't think it is your business who your ex knows or spends his time with. He is not your partner any more, and even if he was you could not prevent him from spending time with who he chose. My advice is to keep things polite and calm for your son's sake. He is the important person here, not you or your ex or your friend or her ex.
I really don't care who he friends with. I just don't understand why he made it a point to rub it in. He could have just posted the pictures without mentioning who took them.
I just thought once we got divorced, he would leave me alone. He hasn't.
What you can control is your reaction to him, which you must keep calm and polite for your son's sake. So I say just ignore it, don't let him provoke you.
People believe it or not usually express strong negatives about people they still care about. You obviously still get to him-otherwise why would he express that horrible opinion? It doesnt sound like indifference to me.
You know the truth of your marriage. Let the matter lie. I would concentrate on friends that are not associated with your ex otherwise it becomes very teenager- ie he said= you said.