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The highly sensitive person (or HSP) is someone who cares deeply about everything ... feels emotions with great intensity ... is highly conscientious ... has a rich and complex inner life ... is very intuitive ... is often creative in a variety of ways... is easily overwhelmed and/or overstimulated. A HSP needs lots of quiet time,space, and freedom. If this sounds...

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EVERYTHING bothers her

supportplease
supportplease
My daughter is very sensitive and kind and treats others as she would like to be treated. The problem is that others don't treat her as well. They leave her out, say mean things, tease, etc. and each time it bothers her. Being sensitive myself I want to die for her whenever she tells me these things, but I try to tell her to hold her head up high and let it slide off her back.

The problem is...I don't live by my own advice. How do I help my daughter survive and be happy in the same world that hurts me on a daily basis?
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deleted_user
That is always so hard as kids can be so very cruel at times. I am not sure how old your daughter is but perhaps you could encourgae her to invite a few kids over for a sleep over. It is good way to start getting to know some of the kids better and also gives them a chance to see what a nice person she really is. Sometimes making just one good friend can make a whole world of difference. And don't be too hard on yourself either because in a way you are following your own advice that you are giving her. You are not letting the world stop you from encouraging her to be strong and it takes a strong person to do that:)

I know that a lot of kids like to bully and a lot follow the leader but if she can participate in activities that she enjoys I have no doubt she will find friends that will enjoy her company and make the days a whole lot brighter. If she can get the courage like I mentioned earlier to invite a few people over or even to a movie or the mall it will give her a chance to see who should be worthy of her friendship. Wishing you both much happier days ahead:)
Group FounderJanvier
Janvier
Does she have a special talent or interest that she could invest her time in? Instead of "trying to make friends" it might be easier to focus on something she loves to do & then she would meet other people with the same interest. Another idea...she could start a knitting group to meet once a week to knit scarves to share or give to the homeless. No fancy stitches needed & no pattern ... just a simple scarf ... so many beautiful yarns to choose from. If she could start with just one other friend, maybe others would join also. And it does give a feeling of being useful no matter what other people think.
kcjones
kcjones
I second encouraging her to spend more time doing things that she enjoys and is good at. Having personal achievement will help her self esteem. Also encourage her to explore her interests in a group like a book club or writing group or band, etc. people with similar interests and passions tend to understand each other more and be more supportive. It would give her a good escape. Research activities going on at bookstores and similar places.