Welcome Gimmestrength - Never fear mocking or getting shamed here. We all have issues with housework. And I don't think anyone of us enjoys it either!
My suggestion is to start with small tasks. Perhaps look at the JUNK...each week or each day if you can handle it...throw something away or put it in a bag/box for a charity shop such as Goodwill. It can be one thing or a half dozen things. Yesterday I put 2 vases in the charity box. That was it just 2 items out of my house.
Perhaps in the cleaning of the house just keep the dishes done. I find if I do them after each meal no matter how few I have I enjoy the empty sink. It took me at least 3 months to get that habit formed though...it did not happen over night and I was not a success every day.

Wow, do I ever understand your situation! You and I are friends so you know some of what I have been through, too. I know what medicines can do to your energy level. It can be almost impossible to get anything done. Don't give up though! Like Joyce said, even a small task will help. Focus on one thing a day and try to get that done. It will be good for your self esteem and will motivate you to do more!

Thanks for excepting me as i am. I am so glad i joined this group. Hi Kathy, my friend. Thanks to Joyce also for comment's and not making me feel worse. I think this group will be a good fit for me. I'm going to really try, like you both said, one day at a time. It has just got so overwhelming. Thanks again for the suggestion's and being so sweet to me. Lot's of hug's to you both. Look forward to participating in this wonderful site. xo

I started this group Gimme and I know you...so if anyone gets mean to you tell me...I will send out Guido from over on the Hill and they will have sammich of Knuckles for lunch...LOL

It is a fun group and we help each other to get things done...some of us need to get things done and other people need to gain control over a never ending mess of stuff...we do not care with how it looks at home...we want to help you make it so looking around does not hurt any more...

Right now my dishes are in desperate situation....it is overwhelming in kitchen...I have not yet run out of dishes but run out of space to put the dirty ones..LOL
I even have dishwasher on wheels that I move in and out to places in kitchen..it acts as a floating pile...LOL I do have clean dishes in it for a week or more now....and that is why the dirty haven't gotten clean...I haven't emptied it and haven't gotten that bug up my arse to empty it...but today is the day...I am off from working today because of side effect to medicine I am taking which keeping me from driving right now...so no work as I teach driving right? LOL

I will empty my dishwasher and then begin to refill as soon as it is empty I know my pattern...once it is full not all dishes might fit...so the rest will go into hiding or in sink....and I will run dishwasher full....then if dishes are hiding the dishwasher gets emptied again and reloaded with whichever things are left....then probably rerun the dishes again...I have all day right? LOL

One thing nobody here mentioned to help you out....got a timer? even if the timer on microwave or your oven? use it!!!! Set 15mins on timer and just work 15 mins then quit and take a cup of coffee or soda or just water...then you got fifteen minutes work done and you can rest the entire day now....or set another 15 mins and just do something like your dishes for that next 15mins....it helps to be using the chunking method...just 15min chuncks....LOL

Hopefully you grow a bit in how to clean and that your place starts to shine and make you smile....hugs bill

Thank you Bill, i love the idea of doing thing's in increment's of 15 min's, that's a very good idea. I wish i had a dishwasher, it's all by hand here. Thanks for forming this group. Ive been looking for something like this. Sorry you had to stay home today, i know all about side effect's and not being able to drive sometimes. I didn't even know it was going to rain today. This is a great group by the way. everyone is so nice. It's not easy to open up about this subject. I get embarrassed. I wish i could have a pet no pet's allowed here. I love dog's. Thanks again my friend for this group. Hug's

morning...I just got up....I have ben with this group a long time...we are all good friends we share lots of things..
it is good you shared...continue to share...I have found so much help here....I am not young...and am finding these lifetime events of mine to say the least interesting.....I do know what you are going thru....
I am truly excited you joined...and taking the advise of baby steps....each day take a baby step...we are here so come back and share each step with us....and somedays there might be no steps but we are still here and want to share....its all ok......

ditto alice...hugs

Bill made some very good points. I think our goal is to make a home that is comfortable to each of us. After all it is a home not a house. If dishes in the sink or an unmade bed do not bother you so be it...no judging here just helping each other all have a pleasant home.
I will tell you that dirty windows drive me bananas...dishes in the sink - not so much.

It all starts with one thing. That's it. Baskets from the Dollar Tree have been an answer to prayer. All my mail goes into a basket and then going through it. One basket is " I am never going to wear/use/look at " this thing again. When getting up to go to the bedroom pick up one thing and put it away.

We all welcome you and it is a journey not a race.

Good point's, it does bother me that my apt is so bad, lately i have not been caring like i used to. I have had to have my social worker help me get it to a manageable way, then i tornado thew here. Good idea about the basket's. I have so much crap and i already got rid of 2 big bag's of clothes that will never fit me again. Don't have a washer and dryer here and cannot afford the laundromat so i schlep them to my aunt's but there is just so much, i haven't been over there in a while. I'm so glad i joined this group, you guy's are great and very helpful and making me want to do better.Thank you so much. I will let you know how i am doing. Didn't do much today so far because i had to go out and get food and etc. Will do the little amount of dishes tonight for sure, almost out of silverware, don't have much of that. Thanks again Hug's to you all.

Great job on the 2 bags of clothes, that's an awesome start! If you can keep that going a little bit at a time, it will start to make a difference.

I am glad you found us too....I am local to Gimmestrength...she lives closer to my mom than me but is not far from either of us....anyway I am happy today that I got the roast beef cooked with the thermometer probe that goes into my crock pot thru the lid and cooks the roast to temp...I set the beef roast in today and turned on for 170 or well done beef....it finished about dinner time and I cut one slice off for sandwich tonight...it was perfectly well done which is what I need to make my BBQed beef for the super bowl party I am taking it to....yeay....now I need to shred it into a bowl and mix in the Sweet Baby Rays BBQ sauce I bought....yum