Hi-I have been with my husband 15 years. Twelve years ago he pushed me and I ended up with 20 stitches on my forehead. We were apart for 6months- during that time he went to anger management and quit drinking. We reconciled with blessings from the therapists- we were the exception to the 'he will never change" rule. We have a 13 year old daughter together. Over time he has become increasingly mean to her- alot of criticizing, yelling. He has also been more and more negative all the time. He still is not drinking-as far as I know- but he will not go to therapy and insists there is no problem. He had a fit in April because our daughter cut an apple without a cutting board. We left for the weekend but came back because...well- you know- he was going to change. But not much has really changed. I have found a place to rent- 99% sure- we have a little money squirreled away for retirement and I figure I will take that to get us started. But I keep doubting my perceptions and decisions. I have watched things get worse over the years and really do not want to end up in the hospital again or God forbid something happen to my daughter before I leave- but I feel so lost! I hate the idea of leaving the home that I have worked so hard to create but know from experience that he will not leave or give me a change for a clean start if I am in 'our house'. Any feedback will be greatly appreciated.
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