Well, life is kind of good at throwing us curveballs. Often it can be good at convincing us that we are on the right path to what we want and then ripping the world out from under us :P. When we look to those to be around us, we tend to look for like people. Those who have similar physical traits (usually things we consciously cannot see but they are there) and mental traits (the things we like and don't and how we think about the world) and that tells us if we want to be around the person. So I guess in a way, what we seek in others is a reflection of ourselves and those who are unlike us and don't reflect the same we don't want to see as they may show us what we could become for better or worse. Often this means that we have to make a chance within ourselves in order to change those we tend to be around. In your case you talk about addictions or more generally addictive personality (the higher probability to become addicted to a thing). So lets be real for a minute, addiction firstly is something that EVERY human on this earth suffers in one form or another. We are all addicted to something, be it caffeen, tv, games, books, you name it, everyone has an addiction. Problem addiction is only when the addiction becomes pervasive and damages your ability to live life. Where I wouldn't say that your addictions are ones you want to keep (the meth one you really should look at trying to break if for no other reason than the damage it does to your body), many people drink alcohol. You can be addicted to it without it being a problem as long as you learn to control it and not be blind drunk all the time. For both the ones you mentioned, there is help for them if you choose to seek it out. so there is hope there if you choose to see it.

With relationships of any kind, with the seeking like people, if there are things within you that you do not like, try to work through them and change them. It will help you find the type of people you are looking to get to. Now I know this sounds like the whole effort thing, but really finding them won't be an effort, it is taking care of you that is. So yeah again there is hope.

I guess the long and the short of this is, don't feel hopeless. There is always hope if you choose to see it, but as with anything else in life you have to see it, and then wish to fix it. It sounds like you are at the point where you are recognizing things you may wish to change about yourself and once you do seek to break those habits then the other items will begin to fall into place without you doing a thing about them. So yeah, don't feel hopeless. As long as you are alive and breathing there is always hope to be had.

well said i support you not to stay in hopelessness go to a12 step meeting just to be around others or some other activity ,,, could not say anything better than what has been said,, i know for me isolation starts to creep in if i dont make an effort to be with others ,,,, then self pity,, then the what is wrong with me,, so it becomes a self fulfilling prphecy ,,,,, i attract the good looking successful and very unavalable typles,, it is a pattern of love,, and peanut butter can be addictive,,,, love can be addictive and take over ,,, and someone undeserving of you,, can take your soul if you let them,,, as the song says,, but dont you let them ,,,, you have worth,, going to meetings,, are not perfect or the only solution but it gets us out of our head out and about,, and listening to others with similar problems really helps the isolation that leads me to the hopless thoughts,, hope this helps ,, we are with you in here stay around,,,,

hi welcome to the group,
im not versed with addiction but I have my addiction to SI so it's kind of similar to a certain degree...
first thing acknowledgement and second what is the next course of action.
The day u will fall in love with yourself for healing is when u will begin to invite people who will love u for u...right now, u have a lot of emotional situations to deal with.
I hope that u find a therapist and start attending NA and AA meetings and find a good sponsor to help and guide u thru this process. It's a big step towards self recovery and I hope that u do it for yourself as well as your close friends and family around u.
When i was going thru my depression and PTSD triggers I realized that I was attracting people who were equally depressed and wanted to bring me down or not listen to me...so I know what u mean in your message.
please take care of U first. u are important and then others come in the picture.

i agree with like attracts like we sometimes need to weed our garden in 12 steps of AA they call it slippery slopes i love the meetings and i am only speaking about me is everybody i meet is positively wanting help and focusing on the solution not the problem,, i have had to shed some folks who were not adding to my recovery but taking from me ,, it takes awhile to see it but when you start working your program and mine really started when my brother died as far as realizing i had a wake up call,,,, was the unhealthy ones just started falling away one by one as i commited to getting sober both mentally physically and spiritually ,, it is a process as they say one day at a time,, every body has addictions some more life threatening than others,,, i dont know it all but i do know i never feel down when i leave a meeting nor do i feel alone and have new healthy friends for supprt,,, keep coming back!!