A close friend asked me to be a bridesmaid last year, I since got pregnant. The other bridesmaids were not my friends but I tried to work with them. While trying to plan her hen I was taken into hospital and my baby was born 2 months premature, he was taken to neonatal and I was on a different ward. I had to pause my involvement in the wedding. My friend who was getting married asked if I was still coming to the hen, I said I couldn't really focus on it right now and needed some time. 4 days after having my son she messaged to say she didn't want me as a bridesmaid as I couldn't give 100%. She wouldn't speak with me so I ended up sending a message sharing that I didn't understand, was upset but wishing her luck. A few days later we did speak and she asked me to be a bridesmaid again and I agreed. When it came to the hen less than 8 weeks after giving birth I went for a short while but was still sore and baby was still being monitored. I had hoped she would understand that I had done what I could, but she and the other bridesmaids were frosty with me and on the day of the wedding I overheard her tell the photographer I wasn't really a bridesmaid. The whole thing has hurt so much, I can see it from her perspective as she has done alot for me over the years. I apologised for not been able to be there as much as I would have liked. I offered to take her out to make up for missing her hen. She remains distant and won't talk to me about it. I am ruminating on it a lot and not sure what more I can do. Hoping for some objective advice on whether to keep trying or how to move on without closure?