Family Scapegoats Community Group
This is a Group for discussing Scapegoating. The Scapegoat is often the family member who tells or acts out the truth ("the Truth Teller") regarding the family's dysfunction that no one else is prepared to acknowledge or talk about. It is this truth telling that makes them the target for carrying the blame for all the family's problems. If you are the Scapegoat...
I AM MY OWN AUTHORITY
Anonymous
I must give myself the right to be me – to function as I see fit. It is impossible to have a sound self-concept until I am true to myself and accept full responsibility for my own individual life, my own need fulfillment. At any instant I can start a new life.
I ALLOW MYSELF THE FREEDOM – I DEMAND OF MYSELF THE RIGHT:
To recognize myself as the most important and interesting person in the world – a unique and precious part of life.
To feel warm and happy, kind and living toward myself.
To realize that at my divine center I am no better or worse, or more or less important, than anyone else in the entire world.
To be different, to make mistakes, to be "wrong," to be inadequate.
To take the time and effort to fulfill my own needs.
To be happy and free – to be harmonious and effective – to succeed.
To be open and kind, loving and lovable – compassionate and helpful.
To be keenly sensitive and aware – radiantly healthy and energetic.
To do less than perfect – to be inefficient, to procrastinate, to "goof off," to kill time.
To perceive myself as an absolute "nothing" – unworthy and unneeded.
To have "unacceptable" thoughts, images, desire and experiences.
To allow others to make mistakes, to be "wrong" – to be ignorant, to be "screwed-up."
To act spontaneously, to resist, to change my mind, to be stubborn.
To be emotional – to love, to cry, to be angry, to be selfish and uncaring.
To drop all masks and images – to not fulfill other's expectations and images of me.
To be criticized condemned, disapproved, disliked and unwanted.
To fail and to learn from it.
To be loyal, courageous, and exceptional – in both my person and my work.
To accept my own authority – to follow my own "knowing."
I allow myself complete freedom and I recognize that I am inescapably responsible for all my decisions and actions. For I must inevitably pay the price incurred. I profit or suffer, learn and grow according to the "nature and consequences" of my act. I realize that "good and evil," right and wrong," are but intellectual concepts, for there is only wisdom and unwisdom, only wise and unwise acts.
Anonymous
I must give myself the right to be me – to function as I see fit. It is impossible to have a sound self-concept until I am true to myself and accept full responsibility for my own individual life, my own need fulfillment. At any instant I can start a new life.
I ALLOW MYSELF THE FREEDOM – I DEMAND OF MYSELF THE RIGHT:
To recognize myself as the most important and interesting person in the world – a unique and precious part of life.
To feel warm and happy, kind and living toward myself.
To realize that at my divine center I am no better or worse, or more or less important, than anyone else in the entire world.
To be different, to make mistakes, to be "wrong," to be inadequate.
To take the time and effort to fulfill my own needs.
To be happy and free – to be harmonious and effective – to succeed.
To be open and kind, loving and lovable – compassionate and helpful.
To be keenly sensitive and aware – radiantly healthy and energetic.
To do less than perfect – to be inefficient, to procrastinate, to "goof off," to kill time.
To perceive myself as an absolute "nothing" – unworthy and unneeded.
To have "unacceptable" thoughts, images, desire and experiences.
To allow others to make mistakes, to be "wrong" – to be ignorant, to be "screwed-up."
To act spontaneously, to resist, to change my mind, to be stubborn.
To be emotional – to love, to cry, to be angry, to be selfish and uncaring.
To drop all masks and images – to not fulfill other's expectations and images of me.
To be criticized condemned, disapproved, disliked and unwanted.
To fail and to learn from it.
To be loyal, courageous, and exceptional – in both my person and my work.
To accept my own authority – to follow my own "knowing."
I allow myself complete freedom and I recognize that I am inescapably responsible for all my decisions and actions. For I must inevitably pay the price incurred. I profit or suffer, learn and grow according to the "nature and consequences" of my act. I realize that "good and evil," right and wrong," are but intellectual concepts, for there is only wisdom and unwisdom, only wise and unwise acts.
Today is the 100year anniversary of the Anzacs. 9000 strong young Aussie and NZ men lost their lives in this one battle in 1914. We are honouring them and all of our soldiers through all of the wars today.
If we let other people bully us and make our lives miserable, I reckon we are not honouring these beautiful men who fought against strong odds, in an unwinnable battle because they wanted our countries to be free of tyranny and they fought for each other in the best example of mateship I've ever heard of.
We can find all sorts of reasons to stand up. The first should be our own integrity and our sense of right and wrong. It's wrong to allow others to walk all over us. We can show them what is the right thing by refusing to bow down and be hurt, by standing with love compassion and respect.
All bullies have something wrong inside. We who can see that can give them the compassion they need even if they wont accept it.
love and hugs
kamary
hugs,
---EJ
"It is impossible to have a sound self-concept until I am true to myself and accept full responsibility for my own individual life, my own need fulfillment."
No matter how much we have suffered at the hands of others, not taking responsibility for our own healing, physical / emotional wellbeing and happiness will keep us trapped in the vulnerable and precarious role of victim. This will impact on every aspect of our lives, leaving us victim to our own negative emotions and unable to protect our personal boundaries.
No matter what wrongs we have suffered, it's up to us heal and move beyond our pain.
Hugs
Kit