Family Scapegoats Community Group

This is a Group for discussing Scapegoating. The Scapegoat is often the family member who tells or acts out the truth ("the Truth Teller") regarding the family's dysfunction that no one else is prepared to acknowledge or talk about. It is this truth telling that makes them the target for carrying the blame for all the family's problems. If you are the Scapegoat...

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Were Any Of You Taken Repeatedly (Or At All) To Ps

Carr
Carr

Hi,



Were any of you taken repeatedly ( or at all) to psychologists and or psychiatrits from a very young age out of the crazy scapegaoting by your crazy toxic parents and presented so distortedly and wrongly as the one who had and was causing the problem? And did any of you have parents who had Jekyll and Hyde split personalities and who were intelligent and had professional careers but crazy toxic horrible parents in the home?



Thank You

AgentSmith
AgentSmith
My parents never took me to therapy. They would have never put themselves in a position where the abuse would be reported. In fact, although our healthcare was 100% free, no matter how sick I was, I'd have to BEG to go to the doctor. I suspect they didn't take me for the same reason, fear of the abuse being found out.

They did, however, tell people that I was the bad one. I was a "delinquent" etc. I was the polar opposite and there would be no evidence whatsoever that I was ever a bad kid by any stretch of the imagination. But I think them repeatedly telling these lies to people like our extended family convinced them and that further subjected me to scapegoating by extended family because they were of the belief that I deserved it and that I wasn't as good as everyone else.
Carr
Carr
Thank you for responding, but it's actually common that scapegoating sick parents take the scapegoat child to therapists and present them as the one with and causing the problem to make the child and everybody else have a total distorted misperception of them.
Carr
Carr
Here are great videos by family scapegoat trauma recovery and empowerment coach Tamie Joyce who had this happen to her too when she was 5 years old,

Destructive Scapegoating In Familes:How To Heal Your Soul!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bxJRpwriAv4&t=1126s

6 Strategies To Stop Being The Family Scapegoat Forever,

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pl2apgKO0EA



Dysfunctional Family Survival Roles,

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uc0tFX36tpg&t=869s
Carr
Carr
And when a child is psychologically abused but isn't beaten with visible broken bones,and or huge bruises on them,it's so easy for the sick parents to totally twist all of the abuse they are doing to the scapegoat victim,because if they beat them and eft huge bruises and or broken bones nobody would listen to their crazy horrible distorted scapegoating saying the child is the one with and causing the problem,they would see that the parents are abusive nuts and likely
rescue and take the child away from them.
Carr
Carr
I made a typing mistake but what I'm saying is that psychological abuse is invisible,all of the injuries are on the inside emotionally in the victims heart and mind,so nobody sees it and that the scapegoat victim is suffering and in emotional pain and that their problems are symptoms of this.