Epic, I watched this all the way through and it made me cry. Not just in sympathy for the disfavored daughter/son, but because I also felt moved how the other shoppers stood up for what was right, especially the police detective and the teacher at the end. If only this kind of thing didn't happen in real life, but sadly there are some very sick and twisted people out there, including our own families.

This showed very obvious and loud favoritism, but even if the put downs are said in a more subtle or subliminal way, it's just as bad, and harder to prove because others don't pick up on sideways jabs as much.

Islandlife, you are so right. In public, families tend to be more discreet. But in private, it is far worse than what we see on this video. If we all told our stories (as many here already have), you would hear how we were cursed out, humiliated, physically and verbally abused, and emotionally tortured. It took me a long, long time to recognize that I had been ostracized and scapegoated by my family for almost 60 years, and I finally told them so. It caused a huge rift within the family and they didn't deny it. I can only wonder what the consequences have been. But the one lady was so right. Think of all the millions of people throughout the world who suffer lack of self-esteem, depression, suicide, etc. because of this type of favor within families that we know goes on everyday. We need to become pro-active about it.

hugs,
--EJ

Yes behind closed doors things get much more obscene than this, definitely like going somewhere to be tortured! The mind games, gas lighting, and psychological abuse are the worst. Good job most of us here are estranged!
Thinking about it, our families are skilled, practiced, and excellent at what they do!
The systematic abuse we've all gone through on this forum makes me honestly believe that some of our family members have a similar personality profile as a series killer. Not that they'd go that far obviously, but some traits are alike, for example: the pleasure in someone else's pain, and zero empathy.
Sometimes I wish I had a fly on the wall video of examples of how horrendously nasty they've been, then again maybe not, reliving it in my head is bad enough.

Part of the scapegoat family dynamic is often pretending to the outside world that everything is normal, nothing to see here, and treating one person like crap but seldom publicly (at least not obviously) so you're right, most families wouldn't allow outsiders to see them so blatantly in the wrong this way.

Although, my family have publicly shamed me countless times, but it was mostly done in such a way that all people would notice is me 'crying, over-reacting, and shouting out of nowhere', and the family all looking like butter wouldn't melt. But somehow they'd still manage to shoot me snarky, haughty, and evil sneering looks without anyone noticing. Very skilled, argh.

I cannot even begin to imagine how hard it must have been on you Epic, enduring sixty years of scapegoating! You're obviously very strong, and have handled it amazingly. And it is kind of surprising that when you finally called your family out on their vile behaviour, that they didn't get all defensive. Unsurprising it's caused a rift though, as in their sick view you've changed the status quo, maybe they now pick on one another, or start fights with their own shadows! People like that have to release their hatred onto someone!

In my experience, people see what they want to see, hence my thread about my supposed allies siding with my family instead of supporting me, and even those who don't know me, choosing to mix with my family but avoid me for no reason. Mud sticks, and most people (sheeple!) will just do the cop out thing and side with the majority.
In this video it was just so lovely and refreshing to see most people step in and do the right thing. Yes if more people were proactive about it, the world would be a better place.

* I meant serial killer, silly auto correct! Probably a few other typos too as I didn't proof read :D

I personally believe that the favored are experiencing just as much suffering as the unfavored. I think it's two sides of the same coin. It's not a healthy situation all around. It may seem "easier" to put the blame on the scapegoat but underneath all that is the truth and we all know the truth of things, whether we face it or not we do know.

Yes it affects the favoured, but in different ways. I mean, the so called love and attention they're getting has no substance to it so the outcome can't be positive.

So true, Buttercup. The favored think they are special and have to deal with a real world where they are no more "special," than anyone else. In other words, they have to work just as hard and be able to "play in the sand box," just like everyone else. If not, they will face great challenges on their jobs, dealing with customers, and interfacing with the public. Islandlife, I think most people will do the right thing, even if it is just walking out on the situation.

hugs,
--EJ