I just realized my role and treatment has a name. Im the oldest of 5 girls. They all treat me different. I can leave messages or try to call them several times in a weeks time...yet, if i dont answer or respond when they need me to help them then I was threatened to be disowned or cussed out. Even if I am super busy and it takes me 20-30 mins to respond its usually left with me begging or crying. I learned about 9 months ago that my mom and 2 of my sisters are Narcisstic just by researching how my ex is. And well I limited contact after this knowledge mase me realize they been playing me like a puppet for years.
I just went to see ky mother 5 days ago and she thought of something of mine she wanted to talk about them started yelling and screaming in front of my kids. I dont visit but maybe once every 6-7 weeks so this bothered me and I asked for an apology. She screamed and scared me and my kids calling me all sorts of names. Then she called my baby sister whom I was on my way to visit next. My sister wouldn't even speak to me. I cried all night. Idk why this happens out of nowhere and why my sister thinks its okay to not speak to me when I didnt do anything. I gave it to God and was feeling better the following day. However, I woke up crying in my sleep that morning. Realizing this was the first time this sister has treated me this way and well that makes all my sisters now. So i think thats why i took it so hard. She defends our mom stating she is older and in bad health from drinking alot. As if that excuses how much the abuse hurts. But never has she punished me and left me hanging like last week. I will be okay and i realize i do need counseling for this. Thank you all for this group. This is why i joined.

7it sucks, you should try to distance your kids from her. You don't want them getting hurt too. I'm the oldest too. Guess what, I don't need them, neither do you. Watch the movie million dollar baby starring Clint Eastwood. You are better than them. Watch the movie, bring kleenex

Almost a year late, but I am the oldest and literally hated. My mother has not seen me in over 10 years, but her venom has done it's work. I had to go no contact and so she turned every relative against me, even sided with my abuser. I was very close to my grandparents and served in the role of caretaker for her sibling for 20 years. No one will believe me, because she wears a mask for others. Do any of the members ever get together for their own support system? I think scapegoats at least know how not to treat others!

It's so sad. Same here. Finally have put a label on what I know has been the problem my whole life. I've always felt like a punching bag for every relationship, but worst, family. It stared when i was young, ignored, and not loved or cared about, and worse, everything was always my fault. I never realized the harm it has done to me until now, at 62.

I’m the scapegoat. My dad has always hated me, puts the other family members on a pedastol
It’s hard. Need a good story about someone who broke away and had a great life