hhmm... lets see, i would tell him how important this is to you. and ask him to put everything else away for awhile, no distraction. then go someplace quiet and peacefull, or maybe just drive around for awhile. ask him to be quiet and let you talk, tell him its important to you, and you hope that he would want you to be happy, and to have what you want and need. tell him about yourself, your worries and fears. has it always been like this? no deep talking? or did it change after time? maybe set up a date to meet in the kitchen for coffee. see if you can get him to listen to you for awhile. if he interups or wanders, gently remind him that it your turn to talk. i think one of the key issues here is not to express anger to him, no yelling. after you talk, ask him about what he thinks about what you just said. then he can talk and you listen. maybe try the nonviolent communication system. one person talks, but with no blame you cant say "you make me feel angry" cos you control your own feelings. instead say "when you wont listen to me i feel lonely." own your own feelings. then say what you would like him to do instead. "it would mean a lot to me if we listened and talked to each other more frequently, id feel more at ease" make sure there is no attacking, then ask him to repaet back what you said, not word for word, in his own words. like "i hear you saying its important for us to communicate on a deeper level, that you crave this, need it, and because i love you, im willing to try" back and forth, take turns, dont dominate the conversation, try not to push to hard, or to fast, or to long at first, keep it short, so he is more accepting of it, after you both get used to it, theyll be plenty of time to extend it. if you still have a hard time reaching him, maybe type it into a note on his computer, and let him read it and respond on the comuter at first, till you get comfy that way, and he is ready to switch to real talking. hope any of this helps, remember, its just advice, take what you like of it, and forget the rest...joey.

I can totally relate to what you are describing. My husband is very much into his TV, computer, games and movies. Over the years I have found that the car is a great place for talking because the kids and the entertainment at home are too distractive. My husband was never one for talking about feelings, maybe from his tragic upbringing or whatever. I agree with Joey and think that maybe you two should try to find a time for catching up on what you need from one another. I have been with my husband for 15 years and know that we are one functional unit, and in our relationship we give and take equally and in the end everything works out for the best.
Be affirmative, Joey's words are a nice example. Good luck and big hugs to you friend.

Also, try to focus on the positive things and accomplishments that you are proud of. I know it is easier said than done.. but when I start feeling down and regret how my life has turned out, I yell shut up in my mind to these thoughts and replace them with: I am so lucky because I have a good relationship, car, home, three beautiful kids, a stable income and a great family. Love surrounds me and that is so great!!! Then when I look around I feel brighter and better. Sometimes that positive voice gets stuffed way under so much when I am having a bad day and feeling especially blue and needs help surfacing.