After coping with intermitent soreness down there for a couple of weeks, I screwed up the courage to see my doctor. I called his office, only to be advised that he was on vacation. However a young locum four years out of residency had taken over for 6 weeks and was also hoping to join his practice. I made the appointment.
Three days later I met Dr. Stacey C. Attractive with a great manner. Although squeemish about a female doctor checking out my bits, she put me at ease.
After examining me, performing a DRE and asking me lots of questions, she gave me her diagnosis.
"I will have to extract a sample and have it tested to rule out bacterial prostitis. But, based on your history, I think its something much simpler". Her finger slid back into my rectum, found my prostate, stroked, and like a gentler version of the movie 'Road Trip' I left a sample in the specimen container.
"You can get dressed now. Then we'll chat".
She left the room, I dressed and a couple minutes later she knocked and entered.
"Your prostate feels congested. Normally I would be concerned, but I think its simple. The test will be definitive though".
"You told me that you and your wife have a sexless marriage. That is really rare at age 40 and her only 34. But, she gave birth a year ago and sometimes that happens. You also mentioned that while you sometimes masturbate, you seldom climax". I responded - yes, I often go soft or loose interest.
"Well, I can prescribe Cialis for you, which should help with the going soft. Or, you could refrain from any stimulation and it may ease up. I could prescribe something that would lower your libido but that should be a last resort. Unless that is something you really want. But, you might want to consider an alternative to traditional masturbation. This is an web address to High Island Health. They make devices called prostate massagers. I will jot their website on my presciption slip. You slip the device into a well lubricated rectum prior to masturbation. It tends to work best if you don't touch yourself but just focus your thoughts."
I told her that I really wished that I could take something to lower my libido. She smiled and said, "Well, we can try that for the short term. I'll write a prescription. This will pretty much either lower or switch off your desire for a month. We will follow up in three weeks. But I'd like you to check the webite, order a device and give it a try. Will you promise me?" I said, yes I would check out the site and order the device.
"Good. Now, which do you want, lower or switched off? That depends on dose" I said I want it gone, completely gone. I told her I was scared I'd cheat with a woman or experiment with a man.
"I'm also going to write up a referral for some counseling for you and your wife. Of course she would have to agree too. If she doesn't, you should attend counseling alone."
I took the referral slip and scripts and headed to the pharmacy.
I have been married for almost 14 years. I got married excited and very in love with my husband. At first I thought he was shy because he was not very sexual but if he looked for me from time to time or I had the initiative to be intimate and he would respond. I got tired of seeking intimacy with him and wanting to be desired. My husband says he is always tired and I always tried to understand...
I went to bed and decided to sleep naked again. I was a bit aroused this morning. I don't sleep in undies since the last century and wondering if anyone else does? Sure more comfortable without.