I found out May 8 2012 my hubby of 30 yrs was talking to a woman everyday and keeping it from me. He lied when I asked him about the strange phone number on his cell phone and he told me it was a male friend of his, and they were talking about work. He spoke to this person more than he spoke to me. He did not want to be in the same room as me and took his phone everywhere even to bed and our sex life was almost non existent. When I found out I of course confronted him and told him if it did not stop I was leaving, I packed my bag and was going out the door. He begged me to stay. So I stayed. There have been new numbers that crop on his cell phone, which I check his records every day. Then about a month ago, I cam home to eat from work and he was working on something for work at home and the phone rang, he JUMPED up to answer it and then told me it was a wrong number. The thing is I heard the person say his name before he hung up. I called my son to talk to him I had some time to spare and I heard the familiar beep for call waiting, I clicked over and I heard a female voice ask if I was alone, It was her, and I confronted him again. this time she was now calling my home when I was at work and he was off. I again threatened to leave. I asked him what will it take to get rid of her, He told me he does not talk to her which I think is complete BS. She calls whenever he is off and knows that I am working. She even called our home on Valentines day and I said something to him and he said that was not for him, when he well knew it was. The just a week ago I went to a conference in Philly and the day I came home she called again She hung up when I answered the phone, but called back and I handed the phone to him and he then hung up on her. I work second shift and so does he, she has access to him thorough his work. I just can't get over the hurt and the decrepit. Do I ask him to go to a marriage counselor with me to find out what is missing or do I just try and deal with these feeling alone? I need help. Please any advice would be helpful.