Emotional Affairs Community Group
Support for people whose spouse / significant other had an emotional affair.
My husband had an emotional affair about 2 months ago. I confronted her and him. It started at his work, which she is no longer employed there. Thank God! I can't get past the hurt, anger and hate I have for him because he did this to not only me but our family. Not going to deny this last year has been extremely rough on everyone in our home. But still no excuse for what he done...there was nothing physical just verbal... Also showed one of his buddies a pic of her, which really hurts. We were high school sweethearts who refound each other after 20yrs and he was the only man I trusted....how do I move forward in all this?
pmj
Still working on that one.... I haven't forgave my husband yet and tomorrow will be 2 years that I found out. I'm also having a trust issue with him... I do okay for a little while, then something is said, or the cell phone goes off, and it all floods right back. He still work with this women, in different departments now, but the thought is always in the back of my mind., you're lucky that way. I just try to take it one day at a time I guess... this week has been bad, I think because it's the 2 year mark. I have good days and bad days.... and there's days/weeks I don't even think about it... it still hurts, just not as much... I hope I will get there some day.... just not today..
J2789
How do you forgive him? It's hard for sure, but you simply make the conscious choice to forgive him despite the anger, hurt and disappointment that you feel. If after a while you can't seem to move past those feelings AND still can not trust him then at that point it will be time to reevaluate your relationship and whether or not it's worth investing more time in. I think it was emotionally immature of him to do that. In that moment he showed his buddy at work a picture of that female, he was basically communicating that he doesn't take his commitment with you serious. If it were me I'd be pretty hurt and angry too. I don't blame you. However, again it's up to you if you think he's worth it. If he is, have a serious talk and let him know that you are choosing to forgive him even though you're deeply hurt and that you will not tolerate this sort of thing EVER. Let your behavior reflect this too.
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