my husband and I have been an official couple for 411/2 years. we have never slpit up or been involved with another person untill last year. a girl my husband knew before he met me contacted him on social media and said she had never forgot about him. he answered her email and that's how it all started. for 5 months they spoke and text almost everyday. he said things to her he should only say to me. she said she was in love with him and had been since they met. when he broke the news to me i was shocked and devastated. he led me to believe it was over. i confess to looking in his phone and found love letters they sent to one another and pics. she lives in another state thank god. and the affair never became sexual in any way. I busted him lying to me over and over again about her. the affair finally stopped 3 months after he first told me about it. i think about it and her everyday and cannot get over his betrayal. I've tried to get therapy but everyone i call has a waiting list. please somebody give me advice and teach me to cope and to trust again