I decided to join this group today, I have been 7 years with my husband and always have had very bad arguments and I have become to the realization after all these years that I might be dealing with an emotional abuser. I have started reading many books on emotional abuse and I feel identified on many aspects but I still feel that I might be wrong and overreacting. I have not felt happy in my relationship for quite a while and I am reaching the point that I want to leave, What stops me is my son and the fear of losing him.

Some of the signs I have felt identified with are the following:

He is always in a bad mood, never expresses his feelings or shares any emotions with me. If I ask him if someting is wrong he says no.

He thinks I have a relationship with someone, he asks me who I am talking to everytime I am using my phone and nods in disapproval everytime I look at my phone. He says I probably see someone when I take my son to his sport practice.

I am a stay at home mom, I homeschool my son and also have a part time online job and everytime there is an angument he says how unhappy he is in his job and that he is the one that has to be the slave that works and that I dont appreciate what he does for us..

I have told him how invisible I feel about the way he treats me, never asking me anything about my day or how i feel and always responding with yes or no and in a bad mood when I ask something, still no change

He has told me in the past he has very bad anxiety, many bad thoughts come to his head constantly, have told him he needs professional help for it but has never done anything about it.

He has gone days ignoring me completely and suddenly he expects me to be sexually available for him, getting upset if I am not.

He tries to blame me eveytime I tell him we need to talk about our relationship, he keeps saying I already have a plan to leave him..

I dont know what to do, if I am overreacting or what... I am lost...