Hello All,

I'm in a quandry, well what else is new? I have a 19 year old nephew, he is my brother's son. I ended up living with my brother after our mother died (our father had died 4 years before her) I wasn't a kid so it wasn't like I had to live with him, but I didn't have the means to live on my own. SO he had been married but separated and had a son. The didn't have any formal arrangements so they just worked things out as they went. She is a bitch, sorry but there are no other ways to describe that 'thing' my brother married. She is selfish, is a substance abuser, but as far as I know has gotten help for that, She was rather cruel to my brother and to me. used my nephew. Well my brother moved to FL with his girlfriend, my nephew eventually moved down there and started college. I left NY (where we were all living) and moved in with a friend in NH. Things didn't work out there and I moved in with a friend in VA. Things are so so, it is not easy to live with other people. They are a weird couple. But I digress.

When I left NY I cut ties with everyone, including, unfortunately, my nephew. I spoke to him sporadically on the phone. but he often gave me a guilt trip. In Jan 2010 my friends suggested I join Facebook. They were doing Farmville and kept asking me to join them. I hadn't planned on going on FB but I relented. Farmville became too addictive after a time and I left that, BUT the positive side is I met up with my nephew we kind of connected again, but it was weird to connect with him again via PM. He would ask to call me and we'd talk for a short while on the phone, not usually lasting more than 10 mins. This past Aug he came to see me. He has a job with the LGBT center in Orlando (I should tell you he is Gay, he never came out to me outright but I kind of in a round about way) He drove up to VA, stayed barely 48 hours, We hugged, talked, went into DC together, he went to a meeting at the LGBT center in DC and then drove home. I asked him to let me know when he got home and he texted me. That is the last real contact I've had with him. Since we met he has not called me at all, when I see him on FB and say hello he often disappears, or he'll talk to me for a little bit and then find an excuse to leave. When I've asked him why he hasn't called me he apologized and said he was so busy. Last night I was on FB and said hello, he disappeared, then I left, I had to go back on to tell someone about a virus in their e mail and he was there again. I said hello and told him I was on my way to bed, he said goodnight and disappeared.

I'm not sure what I am supposed to do about him. I don't know what he wants from our relationship. If this is some kind of payback for the time I didn't contact him. If he came up here just so he could have a free place to stay for his meeting in DC and satisfied some curiosity about me and now is done with me?