Domestic Violence Community Group
Support for those who suffer or have suffered domestic violence. Domestic violence is any violence within the home; sometimes called family violence. Family violence may include elder abuse, child abuse or sibling abuse.
I was in a physically and emotionally abusive marriage for 4 years. My ex husband didn't used to be that way. When we first got together he was the kindest soul I had met . He would take me on dates and just adore me. A little past 6 months into our relationship, I moved in with him and that's when things started to change. My mother never approved of our relationship because she saw through his bullshit. So he cut me off from my family for 5 years. He manipulated me into thinking that my family didn't care about me and that they didn't want to ever see me. A few months later the physical abuse started. He came home one night drunk as a skunk and got mad at me for texting one of my old childhood friends and completely destroyed my phone. He then proceeded to punch me repeatedly and threw my head into a wall. This went on for the rest of our marriage and I was never allowed to have a phone or a job so I would have no way of calling the cops or getting away from him. Finally about 4 months ago I got a hold of his laptop and facebook messaged my sister and asked her if I could come over and I took our car and went to her apartment. I asked my sister if I could stay with her until I got back on my feet. I am blessed to have gotten away from him and I haven't looked back. My only problem now is getting back into dating because honestly, I'm scared about trusting someone again. Not to mention I have completely forgotten how to be single. Is there anything I can do to get over this fear?
Remind yourself of your accomplishments.....Remind yourself of your worth, remind yourself that you are someone and you deserve so much more. Remind yourself of all of the good that is in your life. I know it's so hard to focus on good when you've been so pushed down. What I used to tell myself is.......My mind deserves to be focused on me.....Not him. I gave him enough of my precious time in life. Don't allow him to continue to beat you down with negative....If you see anything negative creeping into your mind, catch it....and start telling yourself of all the positive you bring to this world. Although we leave them they are still in our mind, speaking down to us. Spend time with yourself and keep an eye on what's going through your mind. Tell yourself good things about yourself, try not to let the bad things he brainwashed you into believing ramble through your head. You will go on. Have faith in YOURSELF!!!!! You Can Do This!!! :)