I think it's normal to have some post-holiday doldrums. I have them too! Once you get past this strange post-Christmas pre-new year time, you'll get back into the swing of things...back to normal life so to speak...and all will be back to the "new normal".

Get outside this weekend! FORCE yourself to get out for a walk, drag one of the kids with you, and just breathe some fresh air. I always find that a walk rejuvenates me and clears a foggy head! Hope you feel better soon

I used to get that feeling after the holidays, even before my divorce. It's like coming down from a high, and January can be bleak. I agree, keep busy, plan things, even as simple as a walk, or meeting a fri Ed for a cup of coffee to break up the day.

TIME....cry, feel it, and then take a nice hot shower, have a cup of tea and take some deep cleansing breaths. It will get better. If you don't get stuck in the muck and mire. It's early for you - it takes time.

I agree with the others. It's normal for a down to follow an up. How far down is up to you. As the others have suggested, I find a nice long walk, doing a few jobs, gardening, visiting someone, all that helps.

Be kind to you. If you need a cry, just let it happen, then take those KRK deep breaths and relax. Listen to the sounds around you. Look at everything around you and notice things you would normally miss. Do something nice for yourself.

I think it helps to understand that there are many people in the same position as we are, and some ( maybe many more ) who are worse off. I feel so lucky to live where I do, free to be me and live as I please.

love and hugs
kamary

Lets face it......real life, the every day hum drum is boring! Regardless of your lot in life, you have to make it interesting.

Honestly, I hate holidays because they are fake, forced and so secular in nature. They are made up events designed to get you to spend money. But if we look at the other side of these events, they also remind people to appreciate the ones they love. In that light, EVERYDAY should be a holiday. If we live with that mindset, we will always be happy.

PsiChi - it's been a little bit, what did you decide? Are you and your ex trying to make a go of it? I may have missed a later post. How's it going?

I know what you mean about the holidays. I left in October and I was dreading the holidays. I amazingly got through them but then I started feeling worse. Maybe because the shock is starting to wear off and now the real work begins. This is my new reality...this is my life now. A life without him. A life alone at this age. It's very depressing and feels like a weight trying to battle sadness, trying to go to work everyday, trying to stay afloat. Yes I am not looking forward to this new year, it is definitely going to be a different year than I have ever had before.