Divorce after Twenty years together Community Group
I want to start something for those of us that were married for a long long time. I think that we face a little different issues than those who were dating for a few years or even married for shorter period of time. Being married for so long we have older children some have grandkids dealing with teenagers and their reaction to the divorice empty nesters dating after 40...
Hi all sorry i havent been around much been busy with work and kids,everything was going so great for me untill wednesday nigh
Cut a long story short i had my b/f round for dinner then had to pick my son up from his dads but his tart was with him so i didnt get out the car to talk to ex,got home get a phone call from ex saying im rude,and hes pissed off with paying for all the stuff and not living in the house and hes paying for it if u get me.Ive been down this rd with him many times and he throws his toys out the pram for a few days then calms down.
He phone a few times that eveing by then it was midnight my youngest son (12) was asleep so i pulled the plug out the socket so he could wake him well that just made him more angry,he turned up drunk he had woke my older daughter up to pick him up,he walked in shouting his mouth off and my b/f stepped in like anyone would,my ex wanted him out but as my b/f pointed out i own half the house and hes here for me well my ex didnt like that then he asked y he was was it to be with me and my kids my b/f said no just here for sue,there your kids not mine ive never wabted him to be a 2nd dad to them they got 1 dont need another.
With that my ex has phoned the police they turned up he has asked them to remove my b/f which they cant do as he dont even live here and i do,ex was nicked taken away i was the biggest bitch cos i chose my b/f rather my kids (from my daughters mouth) my ex is let out at 4 in the morning and sends a cab round for my daughter (16)and my son (12) i had to let them go i was drained and didnt want anymore trouble from them threy had seen enough that night,my b/f was still there and way now he wants full custody of the children and wants to sell te house.Im surprised im not in the corner rocking backward and forwards
Cut a long story short i had my b/f round for dinner then had to pick my son up from his dads but his tart was with him so i didnt get out the car to talk to ex,got home get a phone call from ex saying im rude,and hes pissed off with paying for all the stuff and not living in the house and hes paying for it if u get me.Ive been down this rd with him many times and he throws his toys out the pram for a few days then calms down.
He phone a few times that eveing by then it was midnight my youngest son (12) was asleep so i pulled the plug out the socket so he could wake him well that just made him more angry,he turned up drunk he had woke my older daughter up to pick him up,he walked in shouting his mouth off and my b/f stepped in like anyone would,my ex wanted him out but as my b/f pointed out i own half the house and hes here for me well my ex didnt like that then he asked y he was was it to be with me and my kids my b/f said no just here for sue,there your kids not mine ive never wabted him to be a 2nd dad to them they got 1 dont need another.
With that my ex has phoned the police they turned up he has asked them to remove my b/f which they cant do as he dont even live here and i do,ex was nicked taken away i was the biggest bitch cos i chose my b/f rather my kids (from my daughters mouth) my ex is let out at 4 in the morning and sends a cab round for my daughter (16)and my son (12) i had to let them go i was drained and didnt want anymore trouble from them threy had seen enough that night,my b/f was still there and way now he wants full custody of the children and wants to sell te house.Im surprised im not in the corner rocking backward and forwards
take the kids alone and explain this to them.say their dads dangerous
and theyve seen it,
please just give you the time to make them feel secure stay
with you--that you do need and love them-first.and foremost.
Your daughter is old enough to choose for herself and the court will allow that if he goes for custody. Him being taken away by the cops won't look good either.
Take care of the kids first and foremost. Explain to them how much you love them and they come first in your life - before the b/f. Once your X showed up, I think your b/f should have stayed out of the picture or even left unless your X is a physical threat to you. If he shows up again, drunk and enraged, call the cops first and don't engage in his BS.
Good luck hon. It's a rough road that you're on. Hugs.