So a few years ago my husband talked me into having a pool put in. I absolutely did not want one. We live in AZ and he'd been wanting one for years but I was adamant about it. Well, finally I caved but I insisted we get the easiest to maintain pool because I didn't want to have to take care of it when he would get deployed. So we put in a somewhat fancy pool with all the latest technology like the pebble sheen and in-floor cleaners and salt water system and digital displays that supposedly you just push some buttons to maintain some of the chemical balances and stuff. So we put in this $40 thousand pool and used all our savings (which I saved on my own) with the condition that it was of course going to be his job to maintain it when he was home. Well, when he left, he agreed that he would continue to maintain the pool and yard. Well, that was a big old lie. He's come over a total of 3 times to maintain the pool in the last 10 months. Luckily most of that was during the winter and the pool wasn't being used so there wasn't anything to do since it was covered and "closed" for the season. Well, when summer came and I "opened" it which for me consisted of cleaning out debris. I figured he would take care of the rest since I know absolutely nothing about the chemical balance or even how to run the filter, cleaners, pump, water fall or anything else! All I know is how to turn on the pretty colorful light in the pool! I know how to do the little tests to see if the chemicals are off because it has the step by step instructions but if they are off balance, then what? Well, for the last month I've been telling him that the chemicals were off. He kept saying he would take care of it and even told one of my friends that he didn't want me dealing with the chemicals. Don't know why, don't care, didn't want to anyway so whatever. But he hasn't been doing it so a few days ago I went out and bought all the chemicals they had and figured I'd just start doing it myself since he wasn't following through. Today I go out and pull the cover off the pool and the whole pool is covered in algae!!! It looked like a swamp! I was so so so angry I swear if he'd have been there I would have killed him. I know darn well his girlfriends pool is frickin crystal clear because my kids were at her house swimming in it last week when he had them!!! So I threw in what chemicals I think I was supposed to and spent the next 3 hours scrubbing down the inside of the pool and I'm only a quarter of the way done. Of course I'm crying and angry and ready to strangle him... I'm telling you, if he would have shown up ...

I am so sick and tired of his promises to do things and not following through. When we were together he was the most reliable person I knew. If he said he was going to do something, there was no question he was going to do it. Now, he doesn't follow through with anything! The yard is a mess and I've gotten so many letters from the housing association, things in the house are breaking down and he says he's going to fix it but doesn't, and this pool thing is so frustrating! I didn't even want the stupid thing! I have a new baby, I'm by myself when the 8 and 11 year old are with him and I don't have time to be scrubbing down the pool! Am I supposed to strap the baby on my back while I do this in the AZ sun??!! I'm so angry I don't even want to look at him or hear his voice and when he does see me he better be wearing a cup! I swear things are going to come out of my mouth that is going to make satan shiver and I just might be arrested!!

I'm so sick of it !! His girlfriends kids are swimming and having a wonderful time but he can't come over and make sure his own kids have the same opportunity!! WTF happened to him? When my friend heard about his behavior for the first time a few months ago she asked me, in all seriousness, if he had a brain tumor. She was dead serious because I swear anybody that knew him could not believe he was making these choices in his logical mind! And it keeps getting worse. I swear the tumor has taken over his whole brain because he has turned into the biggest loser of a man that I can't even stand to see him! I am just dumbfounded that people do this kind of stuff. And get away with it!

On Monday I'm hiring a pool "boy" and I'm going to ask for him to pay for it in the divorce settlement. I am also going to use money from our home equity credit line to get the stuff around the house done since he won't do it. He hasn't even filed yet so our accounts are still not frozen. AAAAAAGGGGHHHHHHH!

Thanks for letting me vent, I'm going to go get the tweezers and pull my fingernails out of the keys on this keyboard because I was pounding so hard on it now and then go to bed. Hopefully I'll have a really good dream where I run him and his whore over and then have fun with the pool boy! Then I can wake up with a smile on my face!!!! :)

Disclaimer: In case something really does happen to him, I am really not homicidal.... just venting! As much as I want to hurt him at times, I really would never actually do it. Just want to get that out there! :) Don't want to freak anybody out... especially the authorities. HA HA!!