and if anyone knows how to find out about mineral rights to property please feel free to offer.

I don't think your attorney is overlooking anything. Obviously getting you the financial support you need is of the utmost importance. Sounds to me like she is playing this right for you -- one thing at a time. When I was going through divorce, I also had concerns about the now-X dissipating marital assets and concealing his salary and large commissions in the hopes that he could keep them out of the pot to be divided. But my attorney's strategy and approach worked well. In the end, I got 65% of everything, the farm, all the farm equipment, the horses AND the cash, investments and retirement funds. I also got 6 years of alimony. Be patient and trust her.

thanks kath. i am working on it. guess my old atty i knew better and he had all my trust. this is new one and i dont know her techniques yet. i will try to be more patient

If he divulged the 38,000 in a financial disclosure,in a savings account, what are you worried about? There is not a

Let your attorney do her work. Why did you not hire your other attorney then if you had so much trust with that one, unless he/she died? It is fine to be in the know, and if you already got an acceptable offer of support, you just saved a ton a money. IN most long term marriages in divorce, ask some of us, it takes some time, money for lawyer fees and some anguish to get to a alimony or support offer that is acceptable to all. I offered to buy my ex out of our house, trading off assets in our investments 401k etc. That we settled early on, BUT I did not have a settlement offer in place up until a few hours before we almost went to trial. We settled at the court house the day of the divorce. I had no idea if I could afford the house payment, taxes and insurance and live, because I did not have a settlement offer of alimony prior to that. That caused me some sleepless nights, because it all hinged on my alimony amount, monthly and for how long. Getting the support payment agreed, allows you settle the other items in divorce later. It is better to know what you have to live on, and work with. You do not have a full time job or a career, this gives you some breathing room so to speak.. a good thing.

BE patient. This takes time, and you did not get here overnight, you are not going to be divorced over night either. It takes time. For some a year or more in long term marriage. I think it sounds like you are going right along.. and I suspect the 38,000 is upsetting you because you did not know about it. Did he handle all the financial? HUGS

Take a deep breath! There are two pots on the legal stove. One is the pot cooking the "support": it is the financial ingredients used to determine the necessity and amount of support . The other pot cooking is "division of marital funds/ assets". The bank account unknown to your previous knowledge may be his oversight but it is now known for your benefit. It may be regarded as funds accrued during the "marriage". This pot is not yet ready for discussion, so sit back.

Ms terey we gave an offer. He hasn't accepted yet. Not upset I didn't know bout the money. Just confused that I had to turn over my financial but it wasn't on his. This just seemed to appear. And the first atty we both agreed on was dismissed for conflict on interest in feb. both stbx and his atty knew the connection but it was ok til he asked for log books. Stbx flipped and the atty casually threw in in front of judge mine represented stbx 30 yrs ago. This was over a year into this divorce from filing date. Hence the new one. Guess just expecting another delay with all this new popping up. Stbx has done it 2x so far