AMEN!!!!!

I have seen people that could hardly get out of bed, grow into STRONG willed people that are a force to be reckoned with. To the point that their STBX/X have backed down, because of their new found strength. So I too have seen the growth in all of us.

To the newbies, you will get there, it takes time, courage and openness. There is life after divorce and breakups.

Remember we are here for you , we are here for each other.

I have said it before and I will say it everyday, I NEVER would have climbed out of that black hole of despair had it not been for all of you. Every emotion that felt so damn nonsensical made sense when I can here. Every thought that made me feel isolated and alone felt normal and sane when I came here.

Amazing people with amazing strength of character and insight.

Its sad to read the new posts but it is also so wonderful that we can be here to help them and that they have found us!!

Chrissy, I am so with you! This group of wonderful people have been such an inspiration to me also. Once I began to participate, I realized that I was not alone on this dark journey. Surely, I've always known that the Lord is with me, holding me tight, but it was sobering to see how many others have gone, and are going through the same experience. This "thing" is out to destroy. But what is so remarkable is to see how so many refuse to let the situation get the best of them, including myself. How, with the help of everyone on this site, we will not allow the destruction to go any further. How we are standing for our selves and our families. In this situation, all the cliches we've spoken in the past become truth to our souls, such as " when you hit rock bottom, there's only one way left to go - up!" And prophetic insights such as, "This too shall pass", become so real in our lives, as we step out of one day and move into another. And here we are, some of us able to breath a little easier and help those that are coming in with shattered hearts, as ours were once ago.

I haven't been on the site too often in the past few weeks because I'm focusing on a taking a test. But I try to check in periodically and see how everyone is doing. I promise that soon I'll see you all more frequently - test is the first week of April. With that said, I want to thank you all for being so real, for your wise counsel and perserverance. Hope we can truly meet some day in person! Love you all!!!

I second that. I may not have any thing solved in my relationship but have grown and reflect and pull strength from all the adversities life has put in our ways.
Did not expect or want to be here but I learnt long ago things are not fair and you have to make the best of what you have. 6 or 7 years ago I heard a message at church that has always stayed with me.
It went something like this... A man went to church and every week went to the alter and left a note. The first week he wrote "I was in a bad job and changed my job. Thank you, xxx. The next week the man wrote I was in a bad marriage and I changed that. What do you want me to do now? Sincerely, xxx. The following I was not as religious as I should have been. I now come every week and give 15% of my salary. Growing weary, xxx. The following week he wrote "Dear God, this week you took my beautiful child and job. Why? Why? Why? I have done everything I can to do the right thing and You pour the worse to me. What am I doing wrong? What do you want of me?? Lost and be wilted, xxx. The following week the brokenhearted man went to the alter with nothing. There was a piece of paper there. He opened It to see these words..." My dear child, You are not doing anything wrong but you have not yet learned to simply sign your name and let me fill in the rest."

Everyday troubles and trouble are so hurtful and channeling but with learning lessons and climbing this rocky hill we are making it with hands out to help us up and we extend our hand to help someone else. In this we have grown and meet people along the way that is touching and helping us. This is the silver lining I have been blessed with through this wonderful site. I Love You All So !!!!!

I, too, have been here for a long time and can say I am on the side of life where I can smile and laugh again! I can enjoy life and honestly be happy without him!

I did not think I would ever get here, but here I am with many of the dear friends I made so long ago. We have grown together and we have been a family! DS has pulled me through and out of the darkest days of my life! I know that there will still be rough roads ahead, but now I know I will survive it stronger than ever before!

I am proud of everyone and now we need to help those who are just beginning this hell! You will survive and we are here to say, we were there and we understand and we have survived!

Thank to everyone for everything you have done for me...for reaching out your hand to help pull me along, for opening your hearts when I needed love, for being there to cry and laugh with me, and for reassuring me that I would survive!

Many thank and hugs to you all!

I've been on here since 12/07 and I'm not divorced yet!

What a ride it has been. My life is forever changed because of this situation and this site. The end of a marriage sucks. It just does. But it is NOT the end of everything. I was alive before I got married. I will be alive after I divorce. I just will.

Thanks to all who have been with me along the journey!

It IS amazing how far so many of us have come. All the days of pain and hurting that we thought would never end. Of course, there is still quite a journey ahead of us and the many who continue to come to this special place for healing and help. This is one place to come where everyone wants to help - share - comfort. There are not too many sites as this. No one judges or questions circumstances - just gives advice with shared experiences and concern. It's a blessing to know that you're not alone and that others share your pain. Others not experiencing divorce or the break up of a long time relationship, truly do not understand the emotional ramifications involved.

I'm so proud of the accomplishments that have been made by so many and of the efforts to move forward for those who have just arrived. It does get better - time makes a difference - and support is what helps you get there. Hats off to this group - much love and great thanks for being here.