I keep telling myself it will be ok.

You appear to be new so first of all Welcome and so sorry that you have to be here....This is a great bunch to vent, cry, scream, offer advice to......get advice from......

After my divorce, I too wanted to dance again....the last time I had danced waas in grade school..loved it then but as the teenage years hit it weren't cool...so after 31 years and a lot of controling issues. I have divorced and am taking Jitterbug lessons...what a blast....like you I had rather slow dance but hey I will try any style dancing once...But I do understand how you feel.....onne great thing here is that we are here for each other better than the muketeers "All for one, and One for all"

It will be ok but it's a long process. You will slow dance again, but the journey is tough and the hurts are many, but if you move forward, nurture yourself like you've never done before, keep reading and reaching out and learning and getting support, you will make it out on the other side and the slow dance is even more amazing! When I was new to all of this I couldn't understand when people wrote this on DS, but now that I am almost 2 years down the road, I get it! It truly is awesome!

We are here to help and support and nurture you when we can. Big hugs.

I hope you get to slow dance again. I'm sorry for your pain. Welcome to DS. I hope you find lots of support and healing here.

Many of us here have been where you are. Each and every one from different directions, but all in pain just the same. I hope that you can come to terms with your spouse before making the ultimate decision to end your marriage. Either path that you take will not be an easy path. If you do decide to leave, know that it will get harder before it gets better. It's part of the process. But, once your on your way there is a light at the end of the tunnel and much more air to breath. Good luck to you on your journey to "slow dance" again. Prayers and warm thoughts are with you.

I will first ask you to ask yourself have you exhausted all efforts to repair your marriage? Have you done counseling either together or alone. It's hard enough to walk away from a marriage and contemplate divorce, but I believe it's even harder if you feel you haven't given it your all first to save it.

Your situation with your husband and daughter is only temporary. Divorce is permanent. She will always be a part of your life, but not necessarily always a part of your household. Can you and your husband reconnect if your daughter is not around? Please ask yourself these questions before you take the final step.

As Nan said, either path you take will not be easy, but one of them may be worth it....just be sure you are taking the right path.

Hugs to you. I wish you luck along your journey.

I was looking for this earlier.....

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2erJIWnL15Q

pemdcat! Thanks for the youtube connection. I played the song and it was so beautiful and romantic. Looking forward to my own swaying to the music!

You phrased it so wonderfully by stating that oxygen is missing. That's exactly how I feel. I've been married almost 18 years and have been unhappy for a long time. It so hard being lonely while being married. A lot of people not in this situation can't understand but longing for something that you know you will never have again with your spouse, regardless of what it is, truly leaves you gasping for air. I wish you the best and offer my understanding and warm thoughts.

Today I woke up and RAN to the computer! Since I joined the site yesterday and shared my story with each of you, I am thankful for the support I've been given, the words of understanding, your hand holding mine and listening without judging. From the bottom of my heart I thank you. Maybe sooner than I expect my tears will be replaced by smiles again.