Hugs my friend. stop being so hard on yourself. There is nothing wrong with you, just calm down. Join a meet up club, go to seniors clubs. I never joined those dating club sites. I do not trust them.

What is your social life like? Do you go out and do activities you enjoy?

It is similar on the other side of the fence
Even here at this group
You will see a lot of woman post that then have no interest in men
It seems that some get offended that a man would show interest as THEY are fine and don't need or want a man, that gets old when you are a man
Not all men are to blame for thier marriages going south
Some actually didn't cheat and were cheated on
Some aren't takers
Some are good men

All that being said ,
Put yourself out there were you cross paths with the opposite gender

refurb you are right on that score. I have seen men being used and abused by women that I would love to smack them into the next century. I know that there are good men out there. They are just as afraid of branching out as I am. Plus having a daughter living with me puts a damper on things. If I was younger, I would have but being almost 70, I feel that I am too old to start another relationship. We are trying to pull ourselves up from the abuse we have tolerated. We are all hurting. I do not go for looks, I go for character and morals. Hugs my friend. I do not like dating sites

Gee whiz, the answer is obvious I'm literally dying to talk about it. You need to stop waiting for men to approach you and you flirt your pretty ass off. People our age were taught to hold back and wait for men to come to us. Sister, it's a hole new world out there.

I met my hubbie 17 years ago. My then teenage daughter told me that would have a better chance at being struck by lighting than finding a special friend at my age. Well screw that! I was no where near as pretty as you describe yourself but I used char? He was married, but told me that I'd made his day. He introduced me to his single brother. We dated a bit, but I was intent on finding Mr. Right. So, I kept flirting and if I saw a man I like, I walked right up and struck up a conversation. Not one of them was anything but pleased to be getting a little attention.

The pickings were slim, so I got on the internet and began flirting with guys from other countries. I stuck to countries were the guys spoke English. I found Irish men to be a little preoccupied with sex. The Scottish men were a little nicer about it but tried to drive the conversation there in short order. Well, needless to say British men were quite gentlemanly. I picked my husband out of a chat room on AOL back in the day (The Transatlantic Chat Room). He was funny, intelligent and thoroughly charming. He loved that a women picked him out of the group to flirt with. Long story short, he came for a visit and we hit it off in person. He stayed about a month, and then went back, quick his job, packed his things and came back to the US. We got married almost a year after first chatting on line. I wouldn't trade him for anything and just between you and me, the imports are much better. My husband loves to brag about how I pursued him. His guy friends always try to flirt with me, but I now save all my flirting for the love of my life.

The bottom line is, if you want a man you will probably have to go out and get him.

I'm coming in late on this, but I pretty much agree with what Gutted just said in the previous comment. If you WANT to meet someone, sometimes YOU have to be the one to initiate things! I find myself smiling at men who I find attractive whether it's in the grocery store or where ever. And I finally caved and got on Plenty of Fish last August. To me, it's like catalog shopping -- you get to see and read about the "merchandise" and then decide if you want to contact them or respond to a message they have sent to you. So far, I haven't run into any kooks or mass murderers, and I am very careful about meeting someone new for the first time -- standard rules apply: daytime and in a public place; drive your own car and don't give them your address.

If you LOVE yourself you just have to exude CONFIDENCE and it will make all the difference! Give it a try, my friend.

Nothing is wrong with you !! I feel the same way. I just don't think its as easy as when we were young. I think its just a lot more complicated when your older. Where I live there are not a lot of men that want a woman my age. I realized to that I have a lot to do with it. For me I'm more insecure and shy and I also realized I was used to always fighting men off when I was married that my stance is a bit defensive and not inviting. I'm not sure I know how to flirt !! And someone told me men are more insecure as well when they are older.

I also have had men say your pushing me away and I can't see it myself but I am afraid of trusting again so that is probably true. The other thing I can see is I am not exposing myself to situations where I can even find someone. So I am trying to work on the stuff that's mine to work on.

I also need to work on loving myself so that is keeping me pretty busy too. I am just really thankful that I am not in the same brutal place I was when I first came on this website. That pain was unbearable !!!

Every single one of you are right. Having PTSD I have a trust issue. I don't go out much. I am not proactive. I am insecure and a little shy. Truthfully, there are few places I go where single men would be. When I do go up to a man, it is usually to ask directions or he is fixing my roof or squeaky door. He is on the job. They are all very polite and friendly, but it never goes anyplace. Then again, I never offer them a cold drink or coffee so they have an excuse to stay. Finally, my PTSD was and is pretty severe.( I got lost last week in a bad area and it got too dark to drive so I climbed in the trunk (a hatchback) at midnight and hid there till it got light enough to drive). I have a few things to work on. Like Timeforhim, I am really thankful to just be away from the awful abuse I suffered for 30 years and all the pain I was in. I was not even capable of getting dressed (what foot goes in first, should I shower before I get dressed, it's 104 outside do I need a coat). Decisions like that overwhelmed me and my communication was limited to crying, no words. I'm much better but living on $900 support a month is a full time job (he is still working, a dentist). Maybe a little more work on myself is in order. Thank you everyone!!!!! You made me feel much better.
HUGS to you all.